Introduction
Are you ready to go down the rabbit hole? To visit a surreal world, where black is white and white is carrots?
A friend, Metacognician in Shanghai, describes the situation as follows: “Life is more absurd than movies. I've gone down the rabbit hole too, when it just becomes more and more strange and you wonder how that all is supposed to make sense.” I asked him if I should just embrace it. He answered, “Why should you ... change the universe?”
It started with a psychotic named Jim Kiraly who resides, we think, at 6329 Twinberry Circle, Avila Beach, California.
Jim Kiraly is a respected citizen. A churchgoer. A Vice President of Transamerica Corporation. And a violent abuser who tried to use an emergency anti-violence measure, one intended to protect battered women, to stop his victim in a wheelchair from writing a book.
Concise enough? :)
For attorneys: Jim Kiraly filed for CLETS against his son and victim, who lived 200 miles away, did not own a car, and was in a wheelchair. His son and victim was not asked to end communications. Jim had no (zero) specific and relevant allegations that were not perjury. But he turned down repeated offers of no-contact and a signed stipulation that gave him everything but CLETS. He insisted on CLETS if his victim ever once “discussed” him with third parties.
In the end, Jim Kiraly signed an agreement far weaker than the ones he'd been offered.
A review of Court paperwork and other materials will tend to confirm that Jim and other parties, including attorneys on all sides, committed multiple felonies, crimes, and faux pas. :P
The word “abuser” is stated here publicly and without equivocation. A formal offer is hereby made to reaffirm the word in writing and under oath. Attorneys will understand the significance of the point. In short, there is little terror of a threatened defamation suit on this side. Actually, we feel that such a suit will fit nicely up Jim Kiraly's abuser ass.
Jim has one son, Ken Kiraly, who invented the Amazon Kindle and is one of the leads at Amazon's secret Lab126. Another son, Tom Kiraly is one of the leads, a Vice President-CFO type, at medical insurance firms, including one of the largest, Humana Corporation.
These people and some of the biggest names in Silicon Valley legal circles have committed or are involved in multiple crimes.
For the next decade or two, we're going to explore the crimes that these people committed, the motivations and the denial involved, the background and histories that led each person to make the choices that they did, and ways to build upon what happened and move towards positive societal goals.
There's plenty to go over. These people committed or were involved in: Spousal abuse, child abuse, DDOS (a highly prosecutable violation of CFAA), extortion, perjury, conspiracy to commit perjury (a possible felony), false police reports, conspiracy to file false police reports (a possible felony), unlawful threats, barratry, defamation, malpractice, civil harassment, criminal harassment, abuse of process, and violations of SCCBA Professional Standards.
The point was to force Jim's oldest son and victim, me, to sign a gag order. I was in a wheelchair. I'd never made a single inappropriate threat against my abuser. I wasn't even asked to not to call anybody. But Jim threatened to put me in a violence database unless I agreed never to write about him.
I won the right to write, but I lost my home of 25 years, most of my possessions, my chances for retirement, everything. Everything but a realization.
I can make a difference. I can conduct research for legitimate and reasonable purposes, document what happened, and analyze the choices of the people involved:
- Jim Kiraly, abuser. Possibly Treasurer at St. Johns Lutheran Church. Vice President of Transamerica Corporation. Also connected to New Life Pismo Church. Involved with Service Core for Retired Executives (SCORE).
- Grace Kiraly, abuse victim and Christ Follower.
- Tom Kiraly, abuse victim, VP or CFO of firms such as Hanger Inc., Humana Corporation, and Sheridan Healthcare.
- Gail Cheda, slightly demented Realtor, spittle flying.
- Ken Kiraly, abuse victim, inventor of the Amazon Kindle, lead at Amazon's secret Lab126, sociopath.
- Tom Stutzman of Thomas Chase Stutzman, a Family Law attorney whose hobbies include martial arts and alleged sexual harassment
- John Perrott of Thomas Chase Stutzman, a personable albeit lazy Family Law attorney who has a slight tendency towards fraud and malpractice
- Chris Burdick, head of the Santa Clara County Bar Association (SCCBA). Chris, you broke a written promise to speak with me because, you said, we had “Prior...” You didn't finish the sentence. Were you worried that I might take false statements to the State Bar? What's the deal with you and Hoge Fenton, anyway? What will we find if we dig?
- Michael Bonetto of Hoge Fenton. Michael, seriously, what are you?
- Alison Buchanan of Hoge Fenton, ethics specialist. Alison, did you contribute to the SCCBA Professional Standards, or was that before your time?
- Tracie Zerr of Thomas Chase Stutzman, a woman of boundless intelligence and sensitivity.
- Maggie Desmond of Hoge Fenton. Maggie, information, please. What is your role in Hoge Fenton's campaign to hush victims of abuse? When the clients that you've protected beat up women, how do you compartmentalize?
Maggie told me that she didn't know what she could say to me about what happened. However, we have decades to work it out. It will be productive. I'd like to direct the attention of attorneys and other parties to the:
Legitimate and Reasonable Purposes List
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Sunday 2012-11-25 — Minetest virtual worlds
121125.2. I can't devote much time to Minetest presently. But as of this weekend I was falling behind with things there. So I tried to catch up.
On Sunday I rebuilt my Minetest virtual worlds. I made some minor changes and added one significant new feature (individual 2D avatars):
- Added support for individual 2D avatars — PilzAdam code
- Created a few new 2D avatars — see screenshot below for two examples
- Added More Flags by Dogzilla
- Added Secret Passages by Gatharoth
- Added Scaffolding by DanteLives
- Added Desert Uses by Menche
- Added Unified Bricks by wowiamdiamonds
- Updated Flowers by Vanessa
- Fixed some bugs
Update on 121127: Somebody created their own avatar and asked me to add him to the game. Dangerous looking character, isn't he?
^ TOPSunday 2012-11-25 — Twisted Time
121125.3. Twisted Time visited me in IRC unexpectedly on Sunday 121125. As always, the visit was a pleasure. I don't think he'll mind if I pass along a few remarks for those who have met him:
General:
<TwistedTime> I am in the mountains, on a very slow line. [We have] 10 minutes probably, and likewise I am pleased to have found you; online that is
<TwistedTime> I am running an updated version of Dragon Speech, and I'm really impressed with its results. It makes a huge difference for me communicating with you here.
<TwistedTime> I Twitter sometimes but... Oh yes, it is always me doing the posts. Because of my problems getting to the computer I have been tweeting less often.
I do get to spend a lot of time on my hacked Nook Color... yes, but not lately. Anyway, my Nook is running a full-blown Android operating system. I just need to get my URL shortening set up so that I can tweet and have the links shortened as I desire.
Regarding a mutual friend:
<TwistedTime> People perceive, or often do, what they want. On a conscious or subconscious level I believe. I can see why you've not spoken much with redacted since then.
Until next time:
<TwistedTime> Time running short here. Yes, just want to let you know that I consider you to be a valued friend and I am wishing there was a way for you to improve your situation.
^ TOPSaturday 2012-11-24 — General
121124.1. Slept 10:50pm Friday to 3:45am Saturday. I spent the rest of the night working on a project related to Phenek and his firm.
The rest of the weekend is largely a blur. Both because it was busy and because I was ill.
I ate early on Saturday afternoon; it was at Armadillo Willys. This was the first meal since Tuesday 121120. I grew tired as the day went on; it was the breathing-shock issue as usual.
^ TOPSaturday 2012-11-24 — Communication
121124.2. I had two conversations on Saturday night that went very differently.
One friend expressed concern about a relationship that he was in. We talked about it for a while and he said this was helpful. Here's what I said. This was written extemporaneously and has only been edited lightly.
It's odd that I'm writing pieces like the following on the fly. LittleCoder might have done it. But not the person who was there in-between:
You should express
Fact you're feeling commitment
Wish to know how she feels
If she feels
you are a date
and not a mate
You will need to end it
There is no small way
To ask
I love you
Is it possible you love me
You perhaps would not use the word
It is loaded
You would find a way
To have the discussion
Calmly and find out
Without a shout
Where this is headed
Most women, by the way
Love talks about relationships
Men don't do this
Charlie did
You will
Most U.S. men do not
It is a good thing to do
It is not bad
Tell your girl
It is on your mind
This is the only way to exorcise it
You are feeling stronger
You wish to know
Put aside deep feelings if you can
Find the words to say
I'd like to talk about our dates
Where things are headed
If she is surprised or dismayed
You have your answer
Must cut back without anger
Or overt sadness
You can handle this I think
Will be less distressed
If you proceed
Gently as I know you can
These are my thoughts
on the matter
Proceed before your psyche is in
a tatter
Talk to the girl
Give her a rose
Not to seduce but to compose
Speak gently
If it doesn't work
She will remember you
in the future
not as a problem
but as something amazing
Somebody who cared about her
Asked for nothing
Because that is what you will do
You will ask for nothing
But to respond to her feelings
This is unselfish
It is all right
Proceed
But Bacon Bits spoke to me just half an hour later and that didn't go well. He was concerned:
<baconbits> I was just wondering, is your health ok, I know you tend to get tired around now... this might sound rude but you are old... I don't think you explained this to me yet, well why you get tired around now.
I started to explain things. Ran into a problem.
I don't perceive things the way you do. Most of you. Or speak the same way. If I speak impulsively, as with you, the results are unpredictable and may be regrettable. That part is the same.
But if I pause to think, and to speak after thinking, thoughts are three dimensional. Constructs that are an indivisible whole.
They aren't lines. They are spheres.
If I try to move the spheres into the tangible world where you can perceive them, it takes time. But you have no patience with me. And after half a century, including the Kiraly Cases which are partly about this issue, I have less patience with you.
On this occasion, I tried to communicate with Bacon Bits but I wasn't successful. This is how it went with him and how it goes for me some of the time:
<baconbits> alright, will this finally spill the beans... when talking to you you seemed to have beat around the bush before, so I don't understand much... I'm sorry, it's just I don't understand much because you haven't explained much...
I was abrupt when I responded. I said that I'd been patient with him in the past and he should be patient with me now. Then I ended the discussion. I think that I fell asleep immediately afterwards.
^ TOPSaturday 2012-11-24 — God Bless Godly People
121124.3. I'll comment on the breathing-shock issue here.
It's like being so tired that you'll pass out but with an odd connection to breathing. Breathing turns both rapid and deep. In the past this meant abrupt unconsciousness that usually lasted two hours; more than once a day wasn't unusual.
Recently it's been possible to snap back to alertness, some of the time, after a few minutes. I attribute this partly to a decline in food consumption.
The worst of this issue came in 2009 and 2010. The odd periods were connected then to body temperature variations; temperature ran up and down the scale throughout the day.
The Kiralys say this happened because I made the “decision” not to pray enough and that I haven't taken “responsibility” for the decision. As though they'd know about my prayers.
This is what I believed Godly People to be until I met others who were less Godly. What I believe now is a paradox: The less pious people are, the more God is likely to respect them.
^ TOPFriday 2012-11-23 — General
121123.1. Slept 10:30pm Thursday to 5:30am Friday.
121123.2. Benjamin, the Washington lobbyist, phoned on Friday afternoon. He's the one who's looked into CLETS related administrative issues for me. I hope to interest one of the agencies he found in Michael Bonetto.
“Benjamin” is a pseudonym. He chose the name himself because he respects Benjamin Franklin. It's a good choice for a role model.
^ TOPFriday 2012-11-23 — Medical
121123.3. Experienced the breathing-shock problem on Friday more often than usual. System glitch of some type. I'd like to nail down what's happening.
It's also clear that another issue which showed up this Fall isn't likely to disappear. My guess is that the problem which put me in a wheelchair for a while and deformed my hand has spread.
Heh. Sometimes it's possible to see the humor in this. In a wheelchair part time and struck with not one but two CLETS for writing a book. CLETS initiated by an abuser and Opposing Counsel paperwork so poorly done that I'm going to circulate it myself for years.
I'd like to have full use of my hand back. The Kiralys, James and Grace, Thomas and Kenneth, have cost me that. I'm appreciative. Surely Christ will bless them for the Godliness they've expressed through self righteousness.
I assume I missed the part of the Gospel wherein Christ praises qualities that the Kiralys manifest and embody. I look forward to reading it. Possibly to posting a copy.
The other physical issues are tiring too.
Yet Starlight told me today that the weight loss makes me look good. I'm not sure but she seems to be speaking to me a bit differently. And the decline may be leveling off. I've lost 65 pounds and I'm still eating only two days a week. But most of the loss came before this month. Possibly because I'm drinking more juice.
As a note to Starlight, if you see this, the name is based on your real name in your native language.
^ TOPFriday 2012-11-23 — I See IRC
121123.4. A casual IRC exchange.
<Kacey> bye all
<OldCoder> Bye
<RealBadAngel> too late
<RealBadAngel> you should work on reaction time ;)
<OldCoder> Yep
<OldCoder> Needs more pep
<OldCoder> To be hep
<OldCoder> RealBadAngel, I am pleased to say
<OldCoder> Today
<OldCoder> Worlds live again
<OldCoder> All of them
<RealBadAngel> thx god and oldcoder then :)
<OldCoder> Heh
<RealBadAngel> well, god is also an old coder
<OldCoder> Indeed
<RealBadAngel> he wrote all that **** ages ago
<OldCoder> It is a patchwork
<OldCoder> Someday He will debug
<OldCoder> On that day
<OldCoder> We'll all need a hug
<RealBadAngel> lol
<VanessaE> heh
<RealBadAngel> so no armaggeddon
<RealBadAngel> just day of release stable
^ TOP
Thursday 2012-11-22 — General
121122.1. Slept 8:45pm Wednesday to 5:30am Thursday. One of Phenek's associates called me from Finland at 6:00am to discuss business. It was a pleasant and productive conversation.
Later in the morning, several people stopped by to visit me in IRC. Some of them will see this. I'd like them to know I appreciated the visits.
In the evening, Prasanga asked me to review his resume. It had his phone number on it. For fun, I phoned him in Sri Lanka. He was quite surprised.
^ TOPThursday 2012-11-22 — Turkey No Lurkey
121122.2. For most people I talked to today, Turkey Day wasn't about turkey.
For example, Blue Dream had turkey for dinner. Mr. Meow had expected to have turkey; however, due to unexpected developments he ended up with taco salad as a substitute.
Elizabeth had “Jennie-O Turkey Loaf, potatoes, stuffing, biscuits, and apple pie with whipped cream”.
Marcus had Chicken Tikka Masala; he said he wasn't really into turkey. Mryddin had a muffin instead of turkey with stuffin'. Bacon Bits had Macaroni and Cheese. I fasted; last meal was Tuesday and next will probably be this weekend.
Elizabeth adds:
Tip: Prepare some Great Value (Wal-mart brand) biscuits as follows. Split each one, add a slice of Kraft “singles” cheese, and include a few thin slices of Jennie-O Turkey Loaf. Two to three 1/8-inch thick slices per biscuit. Nuke until the cheese melts.
On a separate plate, place a slice of “No Sugar Added” apple pie from Wal-mart. Nuke until very warm. Top with Reddi-Whip. Don't give me none of that Cool Whip **** :-) Reddi-Whip or bust.
THOSE two are HEAVEN ON A PLATE
^ TOPThursday 2012-11-22 — Rubidiun is Rare
121122.3. Rubidiun goes by several different names. This is the Loome, for example, who wrote the poem Cooking Food for me.
Rubidiun contacted me on Thursday afternoon and urged me to attend a party in San Francisco:
<Rubidiun> gogogogo
I explained that San Francisco was too far to travel and that I wouldn't make it in time. He apparently contacted the party's organizer and tried to arrange transportation for me. We talked about it later in the day:
<Rubidiun> “Tell your friend to come. We live in the North Beach / Telegraph Hill area. Call me at the number below, and I can give you details.”
<Rubidiun> unfortunately this was like 2 hours ago
<Rubidiun> and my internet broke
<Rubidiun> and I couldn't reach you
<Rubidiun> :(
<OldCoder> Hi
<OldCoder> Tell him thank you very much
<OldCoder> And I am sorry it was missed
<OldCoder> Follow through and explain to him
<OldCoder> It is important people feel they are taken seriously
<OldCoder> When they offer to help
<OldCoder> Will you contact him and explain about the Internet?
<Rubidiun> I am. And did. Yes.
<OldCoder> Not about food
<OldCoder> I did not intend to have food today
<OldCoder> But the thread looks happy
<OldCoder> Happy is good
<Rubidiun> well
<Rubidiun> you're spending your thanksgiving with friends
<Rubidiun> that's not that bad
<Rubidiun> :)
<Rubidiun> (because I'm your friend)
<Rubidiun> happy thanksgiving !!
Thursday 2012-11-22 — Being Real
121122.4. I mentioned to Phenek that I'd be phoning people today. In some cases, one goal, I said, was to remind them that I existed. He was bemused by the latter point. I made an attempt to explain:
<OldCoder> What makes people real to others? You saw a person who might be interesting to speak with. Even useful. People I helped for decades do not wish to speak with me. Some of them will welcome my calls. Others will not pick up the phone. I will write of this over time.
Phenek was having some Haladetz at the time; a Slavic treat. I'd like to try it. |
Thursday 2012-11-22 — George and Sandy
Update: Russell Kerechanko has died. For more information, click here.
121122.5. While I discussed Thanksgiving Day calls with Phenek, I phoned George and Sandy Kerechanko. George is a cousin of sorts who was important in a symbolic way to LittleCoder. Sandy is George's wife.
Sandy is also the woman I phoned a couple of times in 2012 while I was in a bit of pain. I lay there, without water and unable to move, and we talked about her greeting cards job. Would Sandy be successful with the new line of cards? I expressed polite interest.
During the second call, it appeared that I'd lose my right hand to loss of circulation. However, I tried to make suggestions related to Sandy's business. After all, business is important.
Neither George nor Sandy have said they don't wish to speak with me. But I have a copy of a letter they sent to the Kiralys after James Kiraly went to the police. That was nearly one full year ago now. I asked James and Grace to help with the book and all of this happened. Odd how time flies.
The Kerechanko's letter will be posted here and analyzed when time permits. For now, I'll note that the letter expresses sympathy for the Kiralys and compares me to the Kerechanko's son Russell, who George and Sandy apparently viewed as a problem not too long ago.
How should I feel when talking to people I care about who embrace abuse because this is the easy way out? Who work backwards from desired answers so that difficult questions can be avoided?
Should I write off people who matter to me? I'd prefer not to do so. So I called George and Sandy Kerechanko today and wished them Happy Thanksgiving. I kept it brief and we didn't discuss Sandy's latest product line.
^ TOPThursday 2012-11-22 — Nature or Nurture
121122.6. I should note that Tactician is the one who introduced me to Phenek. Tactician has been patient and kind. Like Rubidiun, Phenek, and others.
What shapes people like this, those who are the true Children of God? Why are they different? Nature or Nurture?
Were the Kiralys meant to be like this, Children of God, and did external forces deform them? Or was it inevitable they'd become the things that they are?
^ TOPThursday 2012-11-22 — Tweets are Neats
121122.7. Just some tweets from Thursday 121122.
<wilw> Because there will never be a time in your life when you say, “I wish I'd spent less time with people I love, and more time shopping.”
<BoldCoder> Love? or loved? Sometimes things change. There are people I'd trade for one good trip to Fry's Electronics. Or Kepler's Books.
<conscioususer> One of the advantages of coding a project alone is suddenly changing coding standards without worrying that someone will want to kill me.
<BoldCoder> One is consensus. You can be Cathedral and Bazaar at the same time.
<daeken> I wonder how I can monetize my blog posts. They require considerable effort and give a lot of value, I believe. Ransom model?
<BoldCoder> You're supposed to sell T-shirts or some such nonsense. I still say leverage the toys. Be the one who takes them mainstream.
^ TOPWednesday 2012-11-21 — General
121121.1. Slept 11:15pm Tuesday to 6:30am Wednesday. Shouldn't have stayed up late. I was in an odd state physically after eating with DNA, the patent attorney. It was apparent in IRC as the evening progressed.
^ TOPWednesday 2012-11-21 — Picking a Bone with the Phone
121121.2. This story may be useful to AT&T customers who need to do business overseas. Phenek tried to phone me from Finland at 6:00am Pacific Time. However, he was blocked by a problem with AT&T. For the rest of the story, click here.
^ TOPTuesday 2012-11-20 — General
121120.1. Slept 9:50pm Monday to 6:00am Tuesday. That seems normal.
121120.2. 3:15pm to 6:00pm: DNA, a patent attorney mentioned previously, took me to dinner at Hometown Buffet in Santa Clara. This was a thank-you for Linux Mint work described in part 121120.4.
It was a pleasant get-together. The kind I should have been able to have more often over the past half century.
DNA spoke of his childhood during the Great Depression; being taught to hunt by his half-Indian grandmother; his wife, who is investing her time to help people; and his daughters, professionals that he's proud of.
I told him a bit about myself and demonstrated some points related to Linux Mint. We also discussed quantum physics and neurology.
DNA mentioned that one of his daughters was a torts specialist. I told him that I might need to initiate a tort action in the near future.
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