Kiraly Cases Document Set 121109

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A.1.6. This document set includes information that is intended to be useful to a young attorney named Michael Bonetto at Hoge Fenton Jones & Appel, to attorneys who may be interested or involved presently or in the future, and to parties of other types.

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A.1.7. The points presented here originate with Robert Kiraly, an older autistic engineer who has been slightly unwell physically and immobilized on occasion for over a decade. As of this writing, Robert has been able to eat on approx. 25 out of the last 90 days. He has lost about 60 pounds of weight. Additionally, there are recent developments of a visible nature that seem unusual. His mood is positive, however, and he looks forward to addressing issues in a productive way.

The context is that James Kiraly, Robert's father and past abuser, has retained Michael Bonetto's services in an attempt to halt Robert's work on a book. Specifically, James has initiated a CLETS action that is based primarily on false and fraudulent statements mixed with a generous amount of low-content filler.

James's CLETS action is about the book. James went to the Pismo Beach police circa one business day after Robert asked his parents to cooperate with the project. The police dismissed James. Robert proceeded with the book as planned. James reacted to that by phoning and mailing people telling them “show a united front against Bob” and “don't be afraid” to help James find some way to “prosecute Bob” and thereby stop the book. Quotes are approximate.

James was not able to find a legitimate way to stop Robert's research for the book, so he decided to attempt a CLETS action. The reason for this is that it is not difficult to abuse CLETS.

In 2011, Robert spoke with his parents by phone in conversations that were entirely consensual on their part until he made the request about the book. Immediately after the request, he was asked not to communicate. Robert largely complied with that request, the primary exception being a single day when James threatened to have Robert arrested and declined to explain the confusing threats that he (James) was making in an aggressive and incoherent manner.

Grace Kiraly, James's wife, abrogated the request not to communicate not long afterward in a face to face meeting. The meeting took place at the Olive Garden Restaurant, 2515 El Camino Real, Palo Alto, California. James seems to have acknowledged in writing that the meeting took place. After the request not to communicate was abrogated, Grace initiated a series of annoying phone calls to Robert. James and Grace never made a request not to communicate again. James's phone records, which Michael has seemed reluctant to discuss, will provide a timeline for this sequence of events.

So, as of early 2012, James had nothing to base CLETS on. But in subsequent court actions he added up consensual calls that predated the single request not to communicate and lied in writing about them. This provided the start of the basis for a false and fraudulent CLETS action.

In 2012, Robert made a polite and productive phone call to the head of James's wife's church, Pastor Ron, with Grace's full permission. Note: James's association with the church is discussed later in this document. Robert also made one polite and productive phone call to a group that James had told him about.

Additionally, Robert sent postcards to his parents indicating that his project could not be stopped. The Pismo Beach police approved the latter action in advance.

To complete the preparations for a false and fraudulent CLETS action, James lied in writing about these actions and others. For more information, see the sections that follow.

It should be noted that despite James Kiraly's propensity for rage and occasional violence, Grace Kiraly, his wife, was never afraid of him. However, it is also true that Grace was often disturbed and distressed by James's actions, left him in the 1960s, asked him to leave in the 1970s, and considered leaving him permanently as late as the 1980s. Regardless, after decades, James and Grace are a genuine couple now, comfortable with each other, married at last.

Thomas Kiraly, Robert's brother and a Vice President of Humana, has joined James by initiating a second false and fraudulent CLETS action. Thomas's CLETS action is based partly on false and fraudulent statements regarding incidents that did not involve Thomas, that he had no personal knowledge of, and that did not, in fact, occur.

That part of the case is one of the odd aspects. It appears that Michael Bonetto simply took dictation from James regarding incidents that never happened and pasted Thomas's name onto James's testimony in an attempt to create the impression that the situation had involved Thomas in some unspecified way.

Thomas also uses terms that suggest harassment, stalking, etc., while neglecting to mention some points that may be of interest to torts attorneys, attorneys of other types, and parties interested in penalties, prosecution, or litigation related to demonstrable abuses of the CLETS process:

Robert's first call to Thomas in 2012 was scheduled through an administrative assistant or a similar party who passed a request for communication on to Thomas. Thomas took the call voluntarily and without any signs of reservations. If Robert recalls correctly, he wished Thomas a Happy Birthday. Thomas invited Robert to call him again after an agreed-upon period. Thomas suggested that Robert make the second call two to three weeks later. Never, on any subsequent occasion, during any of the consensual conversations in 2012 that Thomas not only agreed to but encouraged Robert to make, did Thomas ever once ask Robert not to communicate.

Kenneth Kiraly, another brother, a key person at Amazon who is said to be the architect of the Amazon Kindle, has offered support to James and Thomas but as of late 2012 has not joined them in CLETS actions.

Robert anticipates that Kenneth may attempt a false and fraudulent CLETS at some point or persuade his company, Amazon, to do so. Kenneth's action might focus on three issues:

(a) Robert attempted to identify Corporate Counsel for Amazon in Spring 2012 and contacted police departments (plural) that claimed jurisdiction over Lab126 when he (Robert) was threatened by an associate of Kenneth's because he (Robert) had asked for the identity of Corporate Counsel.

Note: The word “associate” is used because the person involved, whose name was similar to “Abdi”, identified himself as an associate of Kenneth's and implied that Kenneth wished to prevent Robert from learning who Corporate Counsel was or being able to contact Corporate Counsel.

(b) Robert left a voicemail message for a senior security manager at Lab126 that mocked “Abdi”. Note: Robert is not repentant about this as “Abdi's” actions were not simply unprofessional but arguably a prosecutable crime.

(c) On Robert's birthday in 2012, he left a voicemail message for Kenneth that talked about his past relationship with Kenneth. The message was intended to be a farewell. Robert's final communication with Kenneth in their lifetimes. As things move forward, it will be posted online for all to review. Robert is proud of the message and would not retract it.

Teaching Kenneth Kiraly to walk as a baby. Teaching Kenneth to drive a car as a boy. Getting Kenneth his first real job after Kenneth dropped out of school due to fear of mathematics. Teaching Kenneth to code in 'C'. Letting Kenneth live with Robert rent-free for years despite mistreatment by Kenneth who was rarely pleasant or grateful. Putting more money into Multiscope than Kenneth did initially. Letting Kenneth stay with him again when the Kiralys were afraid that Kenneth's brother Scott would harm Kenneth physically. The time that Robert smashed his own hand to protect Kenneth from injury by James.

As a matter of politeness Robert copied the message to multiple people he believed might be Amazon Corporate Counsel or have a connection to that office or who might reasonably be expected to have an interest in the fact that Amazon Lab126 was concealing the identity of Corporate Counsel.

James seems to be claiming that to accomplish this Robert hacked Amazon's phone system. As of yet, Amazon has not expressed an opinion on the supposed hacking feat. However, there have been death threats against Robert that may have originated with one or more people employed by Amazon.

No assertion is made here that Amazon, the corporation, formally approved the death threats against Robert. It is also not clear that one of the threats, which was along the lines of “Amazon will grease your ass”, was actually a death threat. Robert is not clear about what “ass greasing” involves. There is more about Amazonian lubrication of this type in the pages that follow.

A.1.8. Statements are made in good faith and believed to be true. People are encouraged to evaluate and verify.

A.1.9. Presently, the Kiraly cases are headed into discovery and, most likely, Long Cause. Robert expects to win Long Cause but believes it may be possible to recover damages whether he wins or loses at that stage.

The CLETS cases are fraudulent enough that they arguably constitute abuse of the process. A loss in Long Cause due to abuse of the process will not necessarily rule out damages in other venues. It is not clear that the abuse of the process is so blatant that it warrants investigation at the Bar Association level. However, Robert wishes to learn more about this issue.

There are usually two sides to every story. In the Kiraly cases, this isn't actually true. It's surprising that Hoge Fenton Jones & Appel took them. Michael Bonetto has a slight chance of winning, and his odds improve if a more skilled attorney named Natasha Parrett is called in to assist, but in a sense, the firm has already lost. These cases are going to be skeletons in the closet, long term, and not jewels in the crown.

Moving on, the court documents have been OCR'd (converted to text using Linux) and Robert expects to post them on multiple sites over time.

Third parties won't be able to tell much from the court documents, as they're largely nonsense. With all due respect to Michael, it would not be accurate to describe them as competent. As there was no actual evidence that justified a CLETS, let alone two such cases, Michael chose to swamp the other side (Robert) with low-content filler to create the illusion of frightening volume.

Upon closer examination the frightening volume comes across as closer to “Monty Python's Flying Circus” than the “Phantom of the Opera” remake Michael may have been aiming for. The approach that was intended to obscure the absence of any basis for CLETS has left Michael and his clients, the Kiralys, more vulnerable from a legal perspective than he expected.

At any rate, interrogatories will be added to this document as discovery proceeds. The interrogatories will slice through the filler and get to the heart of things. It is anticipated that they will be useful in future cases. If you're a torts attorney, review the interrogatories as they're produced and draw your own conclusions. It's possible that the Kiralys are wide open. Low-hanging fruit. If cases against these people are handled correctly, they may be productive.

Hoge Fenton Jones & Appel will require different approaches. Attorneys of all types who wish to educate Robert are invited to write. He will need to know more about connections between firms, the nature of status in the profession, long-term career paths, and procedures at different levels.

I am apparently old. I am not sure how it happened. I walked through Robert Heinlein's “Door Into Summer” and did it in the wrong direction. I am looking for the door like the cat in the book. Like the cat, I have not found it yet.

Children have Lego and wooden blocks. For all ages, there are also board games and chess sets. Board games include Life, Monopoly, Risk, Stratego, and others. If enough people play, you can put two or more Risk worlds together and have a mega-battle. There are also card games though they're not as common as you'd think. Among college students, bridge is surprisingly popular.

TV is the center of the entertainment world, of course. It offers unlimited options and they're all free. There are three network channels and sometimes local stations too. There is talk that “Pay TV” will come someday. But who needs Pay TV? The term sounds vaguely Un-American. TV is supposed to be free and it always will be.

If people want to see a movie and it is not being broadcast on TV, they go to the movie theater. These are the two ways to see movies, the only two ways: broadcast and theater. This is the way it always has been and always will be.

Personal electronics are widespread. Adults often have good audio systems. There are also portable radios. Portable calculators are said to be coming. Tape recorders are readily available.

Radio Shack has little kits that children can buy to build electronic gadgets. There is even a Battery of the Month Club. I have a small card that looks quite official. Every month they punch a hole in the card and I get a new battery for free.

In the world I am from, the world of today, PCs are far in the future. Computers are interesting devices on Star Trek. If you say the right things to computers, they will self-destruct!

The world of today has families, of course. Families are interesting too. Sometimes they work and sometimes they don't. A few days ago, in the world of 1971, the world of today, I made a decision. I was standing alone at school. Things had happened. Things had been happening for years. I wanted people to know what I'd learned. About families and about people in general.

I decided to write my book. The Kiralys would prefer that I not do this. They've made their feelings clear in a gentle way. But the book will be completed regardless.

This material is under construction. Statements are made in good faith and believed to be accurate but feedback from people who can offer corrections or additional information is not only welcome but solicited.

James Francis Kiraly didn't know much about his ancestors. I'm the one who researched most of it.

The Kiralys were prone, for generations, to infidelity, marital violence, suicide, and child abuse. I heard interesting stories about some of these issues from an elderly relative, Joseph, who James never met.

Interestingly enough, Joseph and James were both in the U.S. Navy just a decade apart though at different levels. Joseph was a Naval officer who played a role in the Manhattan Project. James was an ordinary recruit who signed up as a teenager to escape an unpleasant family situation.

James was raised by his mother Ann. If I remember correctly, his father Frank had punched Ann and knocked her through some glass. I may have the details wrong but the marriage ended abruptly regardless. James was about 4 years old at the time. As far as I know, he never saw his father again. And his emotional age, as near as it is possible to tell, froze at that point. He never grew up.

Decades later, I learned the details of Frank's death and told James about it. James didn't look at me or acknowledge that I had spoken.

James was idealistic when he was young. He was also of adequate intelligence though below his wife and two of his children in this respect. And, things that he kept to himself, he had a violent temper and OCD or a similar condition.

Grace Violet Kmeta was the daughter of Ivan Kmeta, also known as Myroslav Ichnianskyj, a writer who was well-known in some countries. Ivan's books play a key role and a confusing one in allegations against me.

I told my brother Thomas that we needed to discuss how Ivan's books, some of which were in my possession, should be distributed in the event of my death. Thomas has characterized this remark as an extortion attempt. The mechanism for the extortion, exactly how it might have worked, is not clear as I'd have been dead at the time the books were delivered.

Thomas has also indicated that Ivan's books were given to me by Grace, but this is not true. I obtained the books in question directly from Ivan as a gift for Thomas and his brothers Kenneth and Scott. I even arranged autographs for them. When I asked for the autographs, I made Ivan cry. I regret making Ivan cry for the sake of the Kiralys.

To read more about my grandfather on the Internet, do an Internet web search for the three words Ivan Kmeta Efimovich.

Ivan was gentle in his old age but apparently strict with his children. As a young adult, Grace rebelled against the conventions of her family and of the times. She had at least two lovers: Bill Kiraly and his brother James.

Grace became pregnant once or twice. The pregnancy, or pregnancies, ended in miscarriage. I've been told that it happened more than twice but the truth hasn't been nailed down.

It isn't clear who was the father of which baby. Based on something odd in the chronology I'm starting to wonder if Bill was the father of a baby that was lost earlier than the period Grace has talked about. But the one person who might have been able to explain things, Grace's brother Tony, one of the people who loved me, respected me, and treated me as a person, is long dead.

Tony was apparently the person who drove Grace to the hospital when she had miscarriages. But I'll never know for sure. I wish Tony was alive again. I'd like to talk to him for reasons other than the Kiraly book. I'd like to talk to a family member who is family. Somebody who has a soul. This would be nice.

At any rate, Grace married James during one of the pregnancies. My assumption is that the baby was James's but this is not certain.

At the time, pregnancies in the U.S. outside of marriage generally resulted in forced marriages. However, when Grace told me about these events, she was careful to explain that her marriage to James wasn't based solely on the pregnancy. She had cared about James. He'd been a satisfactory lover. And he'd come across as stable and potentially successful. A good mate.

James wasn't stable. But he was successful. He became one of the heads of Transamerica. I remember watching as they built the Transamerica Pyramid many years ago. The tall pointy building in San Francisco. James seemed proud of his role there; at the company in general and at the Pyramid in particular.

However, Grace ended up with more than she'd bargained for. James was angry much of the time and proved to be abusive. There were also four children: Robert, Thomas, Kenneth, and Scott. Two of them had disabilities at birth and the other two developed emotional difficulties over time.

James had a tendency to smash things or tear them up. I remember wandering into the living room at a young age and not understanding the destruction that I saw. I was a logical child. Things were supposed to be a certain way. If they were smashed or broken it didn't make sense.

Grace now denies that James injured her. There was an evolution of perception over time: From violence, to “accident”, to “it didn't happen”. But the records of her injuries may still exist.

This leads to an interesting point. With time, reality shifts for people who have normal neurotransmitters. What matters to them is the way that things are supposed to be. Not the way they are.

As a related example, on one of the occasions I talked to Grace about the time that James had chased me out of the house half-naked, she neither acknowledged nor denied that it had happened. Instead, she said loudly, “My husband is not a brute!” This is what mattered to her; a vague value judgment as opposed to the facts. Facts didn't matter.

Grace also used to say things like “Is that what you think of me?” when I talked about facts. I never knew how to respond. How somebody thinks about something is irrelevant to the facts. What was she talking about?

For a while, Grace drank gin to cope with the burdens of her marriage. She'd pass out with the bottle nearby. Today she says this only happened once but I remember seeing her this way in more than one place. It might have been a number of times or just two. I honestly can't say.

To a literal child, a drunk mother was confusing. The mother wasn't asleep but she wasn't awake either. She could almost talk but not quite. What was this third state supposed to be?

At one point, Grace left James and flew away with her small children in tow. I remember the trip. I vomited on the airplane. I also missed my room. It had my shelves of books and my globe. Would my possessions be all right without me? It is odd but this is what was in my mind.

There wasn't really anywhere permanent to go, so Grace returned to James. A decade later, in the 1970s, she asked her husband to move away. He did for a while and the house seemed odd. Quiet. There were signs that things might shift and become pleasant. But James came back.

Grace sought my counsel on numerous occasions in the 1980s when she was upset with James. But by the 1990s they were aging and had finally settled in together. Today they travel together, they know each other's boundaries, they are comfortable. I can't imagine them apart.

The three older children went on to successful careers. Or partly successful; my own career was interesting but it largely ended after the dot-com era. The youngest child, Scott, was OCD and considered dangerous. The OCD component may have been inherited from James.

As an interesting point, one worth thinking about, Thomas and Kenneth each named one of their children after their father James. As the book evolves I'd like to write about the choice of the name.

How do I remember Kenneth Kiraly, the engineer who was apparently involved with the Amazon Kindle?

I remember a baby who learned to walk. I helped to teach him. The expression on his face shone clearly; he was very pleased.

There was a little boy who was ferocious. Kenneth Tiger. Nobody pushed Kenneth around.

But his father was brutal and outweighed the little boy. Kenneth ate like a bird and weighed about the same. James was heftier; it was an impressive sight when he was enraged. One day James and Kenneth were shouting at each other. Kenneth had an older brother who was frightened. Would the man kill the other boy? So the older brother, who was foolish, smashed a car door on his own hand. Oh, look; injuries. Now people are distracted.

When the little boy was older, sometimes there was shouting. His older brother said, “Let us go to the movies. Surely it is a coincidence that I would suggest movies during the shouting.” They left and then there was no more shouting.

Kenneth and I used to do experiments with electronic devices that were wonderful and dangerous. Sometimes equipment would explode.

I taught a teenage boy to drive a car. The car was the green VW Bug. Oddly, later on, the boy denied this had happened. But there was a photograph that proved it. Facts are so inconvenient! But why did the boy need to deny his brother had helped him? On this occasion as well as the others?

So many things happened. So much denial. The facts the silly older brother thought were important. They didn't matter at all.

When Kenneth Kiraly was about 19, he was frightened of differential equations and dropped out of school. He didn't want to move back to his father James and mother Grace and be a failure. So he moved into my apartment and lived there rent-free for years. Transportation, food, and everything, all free.

Kenneth Kiraly liked to curse at me during this period. The years that I supported him. The years that I gave him everything he needed or wanted for free. Even while we were shopping. People stared as I bought dinner for the young man who was cursing at me.

The early 1980s were a good period for me regardless. Things were looking up and I had a future. The only negative part was Kenneth's presence; the fact that he was hurting me while I was helping him.

I gave Kenneth his first real job. At my company, IPT. I taught him to code in 'C'. He was very good.

We hired Thomas Kiraly, our brother, for a while. Thomas had only worked at cooking hamburgers and needed something besides hamburgers on his resume. So he came to work with us. He was very good, too. At business matters, anyway. This is the context that mattered at the time.

The CEO looked at the three brothers and was impressed. Two actual geniuses and one young but capable and sensible CFO type. The CEO said, “Let us hire the fourth Kiraly brother! Bring him!” But the fourth brother, Scott, was OCD and considered dangerous. So we did not bring him.

It should be noted that it wasn't solely James that made Grace's life difficult.

But Grace was also drained by her son Scott. Scott wasn't toilet trained until age six. He hated his brother Kenneth and used to poke Kenneth because he knew Kenneth hated to be poked. There were other problems.

The Kiralys sent Scott to a sort of Christian Prison in the mountains for a while. I think I was the only one of the Kiraly brothers to visit him. While they were preparing to send Scott away, to hide him as though he was a secret, I remember that Kenneth came to stay with me again.

The Kiralys were afraid that if Scott saw Kenneth during this period, he might injure or kill his brother. The Walnut Creek police had been involved in past incidents and the Kiralys felt this time was likely to be more serious.

The family lived in Walnut Creek, by the way. As this document evolves, more will be said about the town.

Things turned negative for me in the mid-1980s. The period wasn't as difficult as childhood or adolescence had been, but it was exhausting. Kenneth did his best to add to the pleasantness of my life. Actually, he was worse than he'd been a few years before. He was an adult now but a bully who mocked and cursed and played jokes like a younger person might.

If I remember correctly, Kenneth Kiraly lived with and was supported by his parents and myself, at different times, until the end of the 1980s, except when he was at school. Kenneth saw no need to be independent as an adult when it was possible to sponge off of other people. Or any need to be polite while he was living in their households, eating their food, and driving up their bills.

In later years, Grace Kiraly started to deny that Kenneth had lived with her for as many years as he did. It is not clear why she felt the need to do this.

There was one thing Kenneth always did that never made sense. He didn't like our mother, Grace Kiraly, very much; this part was understood. But he was willing to hurt her simply to hurt me.

If I gave Grace gifts, for her birthday or holidays such as Christmas, Kenneth would look for things that were inadequate about the gifts and mock the gifts right in front of Grace.

Kenneth didn't care if this made Grace sad. She made light of the matter, not realizing that this made me sad. Were my gifts, gifts that I'd thought hard about, so inconsequential?

If I talked about this issue, or other things that Kenneth or the Kiralys did, things of greater importance, I was considered to be in the wrong because I had spoken. Trouble-maker! Be silent! This is the way it works. People work backwards from desired conclusions. Facts are not welcome.

Eventually, Kenneth worked for Logitech which did a spin-off named Multiscope. I invested more money in Multiscope than Kenneth did initially. He said that he couldn't have his brother show more faith in him than he had himself. So he upped his investment. Subsequently he denied this had happened. It is not clear why he needed to deny this.

The startup money went away. Kenneth and his older brother went for a little walk. “The money is gone,” Kenneth said. His older brother replied, “Don't worry, it is fine.” But buyout offers came soon after.

Kenneth Kiraly wanted Microsoft but I believe he was forced to go with Symantec due to a letter of intent. He ended up working for a man who had business problems and was in the news at the time. I mentioned the problems to Kenneth after he returned from a plane trip. I had the impression Kenneth was angry I'd been so presumptuous as to comment on his business.

I went to Kenneth's pre-wedding party with Montasar Swaiss our mutual acquaintance. I sat right next to Kenneth. But he stared through me at the wall and didn't speak to me. This was unusual even for Kenneth.

Kenneth's eyes, as he stared through me at the wall, seemed glassy and even artificial. He didn't exist and neither did I. It was odd not to exist. It seemed possible that a person who didn't exist was not wanted at the wedding. I spoke to Grace about the wedding. Grace said that Kenneth wanted me there but he didn't.

Kenneth Kiraly, in his own way, ordered me to stay away from the wedding. But as with James and Grace and Thomas on other occasions, Kenneth didn't respect me enough to speak the truth out loud: Robert was different. He was not welcome to people who hate and fear the constitutive other.

People like the Kiralys don't like to look in the mirror. To confront themselves and their decisions. Introspection leads to uncomfortable realizations. Those are to be avoided at all costs. But Robert was literal. So he expected the Kiralys to discuss the wedding issue and other issues out loud.

From a Kiraly point of view, this was impolite. Why couldn't Robert “take a hint” and simply go away?

I was never the type of person who could “take a hint”. It was the way I was born. Things are different now. I've learned to look for “hints”. It's not as easy as normal people think. In some cases I honor “hints”. In other cases, these days, I react differently and I'm not subtle at all. I'm happy about that.

For whatever time I have left, I'm going to help those who need and deserve it. And, in other cases, Matthew 5:39 is not going to apply. That reference is for my attorney. I stand by my advice to continue to use the Bible in his work. But only in cases where it is suitable as discussed before.

Presently, I only recall seeing Kenneth Kiraly one more time. Thomas Kiraly's children crippled our mother Grace for life. They thought it was a fun game but it wasn't. All the Kiralys were there at one point or another afterward. I gave Thomas's son, who had broken my mother's bones, a book about dinosaurs. I was told later that he was fond of the book and often slept with it.

Then Kenneth made the Kindle and I never heard from him again. Not after I lost my career or became sick or any of it.

Grace talked about Kenneth fairly often. Once she mentioned that he had come up to her and said, “When I was a boy your cooking was terrible.” She pretended the remark didn't hurt her but it did.

I remember Thomas Kiraly Vice-President of Humana as tall and handsome. He was also cruel and unpleasant though not as harsh as his brother Kenneth Kiraly or as dangerous as their younger brother Scott Kiraly.

Thomas and I were close in age but we didn't have much sibling rivalry around the age of four. I don't know about earlier. We shared an imaginary friend. I remember the imaginary friend's name but I won't share it because it is silly.

When school age was reached, Thomas quickly realized that I was different. He rarely spoke to me again except to hurt me.

I hurt Thomas on three occasions during childhood. Once by accident. Twice when he came very close to me in an angry way and seemed to be attacking me physically. Most of the time he hurt me instead.

Thomas Kiraly was the lively and normal boy. Well, sort of normal. Actually Thomas was grim and angry. His mother Grace complained about this to me years later. She brought up the subject many times. Thomas sometimes set fires, smashed windows, got drunk. But he also had school plays, a band, that sort of thing. I think the band may have been called “Night Blooming Jasmine” but I'm not sure. I believe I suggested the name “Metro” but I don't remember if the suggestion was considered.

Thomas provides me with a rare positive memory of this family. He was a bedwetter until a late age. But I don't think anybody teased him about this. Even James didn't get angry. It was because James knew Thomas hadn't made a “decision” to wet the bed and that it wasn't a moral issue.

If Robert couldn't speak “right”, that was a different matter. Failure to look people in the eye or the inability to put words together; from James's perspective, these were “decisions” and moral failings.

I dutifully recorded Thomas's bedwetting issue in my journal. It was a private record and no offense was intended. But somebody opened my journal and scratched out my notes.

If Thomas did that to my journal, he was probably pissed. For my non-English speaking friends, the ones in Europe, India, Sri Lanka, and China, “pissed” is a U.S. idiom and the point is word-play.

I'll add a personal note to Prasanga in Sri Lanka. Prasanga, your father passed away recently and you grieved. Now you know about Robert's father. And the rest of the people who Robert was blessed with. Consider this: Lives and relationships are measured not by their length but by their quality. Marry the girl and be the type of father to your children that you remember having yourself.

The childhood journal was useful for more than one purpose. Little Robert was interested in meta-cognition. While he was still a preteen, he invented a numeric system that he used to track and assess his own mental state. The numbers went into his journal. When James and others hurt him, the values increased.

I think, in the end, the numbers went too high. Four decades ago. This is the period that I want to talk to Kevin King, Nancy Meyer, Akhil Amar, Twisted Time, and their group about. It is also a period that other people should know about. It is not something that everybody lives through.

People talk about bullying and abuse more these days. They pretend the problem has been solved. But the problem has not been solved. Bullying and abuse are fundamental issues. “Good” people do these things. “Good” people who focus on differences, on exclusion as opposed to inclusion.

That is one of the keys. There are people who are unable to see past differences. They operate at a crude animal level and are unable to understand inclusion. I feel that evolutionary psychiatry holds the answers.

In high school I earned the right to attend a cast party. I treasured small rewards because positive feedback was rare. So I looked forward to the cast party. Thomas arranged to have me locked out. This was a little joke of his. I stood outside the door and couldn't go in. Thomas laughed. He was pleased that I was not allowed to have my reward. To exist as a member of the group.

Thomas Kiraly turned less pleasant as a young adult. His mother Grace said later that a “dark mask” came down.

Thomas told me that he would get a gun and shoot me in the head. He often talked about the gun and what the bullets would do to me. Thomas seemed to be able to picture the weapon in every detail. This was unsettling; both that Thomas would talk about this and the fact he'd imagined every detail.

When Thomas was married to Karen there was a problem with the wedding photography. Grace told me that the only photos they had of the wedding were taken by me. The autistic older brother that Thomas was ashamed of.

I remember a small but interesting incident which says more than is immediately apparent. I started family histories many years ago. By the time Thomas's son Michael was born, I'd learned enough about the Kiraly side that I was able to produce a chart which showed the importance of the name Michael in the family. Thomas wanted the chart. But he didn't want to ask me for it. So Thomas simply took the chart out of my hands and made a photocopy. He didn't look at me or acknowledge that I had created the chart. I was simply an object to him; an object to be used.

Grace didn't like Thomas's wife Karen but she (Grace) tried to make things work. Thomas didn't help.

Grace gave possessions to Karen that belonged to me and refused to ask for them back. She said, “I can't look incompetent to my daughter in law!” In the decade that followed Grace retrieved one set of items but refused to ask Karen for a remaining item. Grace couldn't bear the thought of embarrassment over the matter.

As a comical note, Grace indicated that she would search for the possession on a visit to Thomas and Karen. My impression was that she intended to steal it back so that she wouldn't need to discuss her original mistake with Karen. Naturally she didn't follow through with this proposal. My possession presumably sits in one of Thomas's and Karen's display cases with its history lost.

That situation is related to an issue that will be discussed further as this document evolves. Grandchildren. Thomas had produced grandchildren and I had not. This become a factor in things over time.

Grace told me that I couldn't have heirlooms because, after all, I had not produced grandchildren.

Who would I pass heirlooms on to? Surely, Grace reasoned, I'd understand this and if I didn't understand it, well, I was being too sensitive. From my point of view, I could have passed heirlooms on to nieces or nephews. Or, for that matter, to my brothers, who I believed were likely to outlive me. But, then, again, I tried to do that with my grandfather's books and Thomas has characterized the offer as an extortion attempt. The Kiralys really are an interesting family.

Grandchildren were so important to the Kiralys that James issued a strict order to Grace. She was told not to complain to Thomas and Kenneth about how those two sons treated her. James felt that if Grace offered them any criticism, they might not bring the grandchildren to visit any longer.

After Thomas's children Riane Kiraly and James Kiraly (grandson of the original James) crippled Grace, Grace's arm made little crunching sounds. Thomas joked to Grace about the crunching sounds that his children had caused. Grace pretended the jokes didn't bother her. But they did.

My parents James and Grace Kiraly moved to Pismo Beach, CA in the late 1990s. I visited them shortly afterward and again in 2003.

My father ignored my presence during the visits except when he was angry. This was fairly often and, as usual, the reasons were rarely clear.

On one of the Pismo Beach visits, when James shouted at me, my mother Grace snapped at me “How dare you bring this into my house!” She blamed me for James's childish behavior.

This sort of thing was tiring but hardly new. In dysfunctional families, if somebody has been designated as a scapegoat, it's not unusual for him or her to be assigned the blame for whatever happens. As far as the others are concerned, facts are not of great significance.

The visits to Pismo Beach were unpleasant except for the scenery, which was quite nice.

I enjoyed the picturesque downtown, the beach, and the bold birds who mingled carelessly with people. But I ended visits to the area after 2003. This was regrettable because I wasn't able to see some relatives who mattered to me: Edward Kerechanko, the last elderly member of the family, his son George, and George's wife Sandy.

Edward died years later and I never got to say goodbye. But it would have meant dealing with the Kiralys and that was too much.

In the mid-2000s, James and Grace drove through my area; Silicon Valley, California. They were planning to visit my brothers Kenneth and Scott, who lived in the same region though in different cities. Most likely at different times, too, as Kenneth and Scott were not close and their parents had feared on some occasions that Scott might injure or kill Kenneth.

I invited James and Grace to have lunch with me. They refused. However, they agreed to talk with me for a few minutes in a parking lot. So we stood in a parking lot amidst all the cars and chatted. A parking-lot visit. The stuff that lasting and loving relationships are made of. It is astonishing that we did not all embrace the way it happens on television.

I talked to Grace by phone occasionally throughout the 2000s. It didn't go as well as I hoped. On one occasion, when I said something she didn't want to hear, she started singing the words “La La La” so that she couldn't hear me. I'd read about this in stories but until that moment I hadn't known that people actually did it.

I left James voicemail messages occasionally about things that he was interested in. However, he never responded. Not even once.

Starting in 2008 I made a concerted effort to connect with people from the past. This started after I realized one night that something in me had changed.

Grace Kiraly has described the realization in negative terms. This may be because of something that it implies; something related to the past. Regardless, the change was positive. The part of the boy that felt love and loss, and that could write about feelings, had returned to the fore.

I went to look for Twisted Time, a childhood friend who was involved in a James Kiraly incident that was less than pleasant. I found him in a hospital in San Francisco. To speak with him after all the years, which were there and were not at the same time... it was amazing.

I also went to see Kern King, a Finance Director at Stanford University. I remembered him as Kevin King's younger brother; like Kevin, a decent person. Kern was surprised at first but he was pleased to talk to me for a little while. We discussed time and feelings about time. Additionally, Kern boasted that he still looked college age. However, he actually resembled his father Wayne who had seemed ancient to me in the 1970s.

Regrettably I was overcome with emotion while talking to Kern. He stared at me; that felt odd. He didn't want to speak with me again though he pretended that things were well. I phoned Kern circa his birthday in the years that followed to wish him Happy Birthday. I never got to take him and his wife to lunch, something I'd thought I might do.

I talked with Kevin King, Kern's older brother. He'd become a manager at Chevron. Kevin didn't want to talk with me either. But he phoned me years later to help me after the Kiralys tried to stop the book. I'm grateful for that.

I talked with others. Nancy G. and other peers. And business associates from the past.

One of the business associates was P.J. Lyon. He used to have a large part of the U.S. voting software market. P.J. welcomed me. He was a much better old person than James and Grace Kiraly. There was no cruelty in him at all. Nothing but pleasantness. He and his wife Nancy volunteered to help animals.

And if I was sick, P.J. was regretful. He didn't talk about “decisions” that I'd never made.

To clarify the latter point, James and Grace often suggested that I was sick because of “decisions” that I didn't take “responsibility” for. However, they were never able to say what “decisions” they were referring to. It was an interesting puzzle. As near as I could tell, the logic went like this:

Jesus Christ wouldn't allow a person who prays enough to be sick. Therefore, if I was sick, I must not have prayed enough to Jesus Christ. This is the “decision” that I needed to take “responsibility” for.

As an interesting coincidence, Thomas Kiraly was apparently involved with one of P.J.'s former ventures at some point. I heard that the employees, who had known me, praised me to Thomas. This was a bit awkward for my brother; the part where he needed to acknowledge that I existed.

In the same year (2008), I started to speak more often with my parents, James and Grace Kiraly.

I declined to speak with James for a while. He'd rebuffed attempts I'd made for years. When I'd visited in 2003 I'd tried to show him a legal brief that I was proud of. He wouldn't even look at it.

The legal brief was something that James and I should have been able to communicate about. But James refused to discuss the document or even to look me in the eye when he refused. It would have meant seeing me as an adult and a peer, something that James could never bring himself to do.

When James looked at me, he saw the boy who'd had “attitude” and had therefore disrespected him. Not the frightened autistic child he'd battered but who might have loved him anyway.

James also ignored attempts that I made subsequently to show interest in his activities. The idea of speaking with him had become stressful to me. I wanted to wait until things were working with Grace before trying again with him.

Grace, for her part, wasn't strongly interested in talking to me. It took me a while to realize this. But something happened circa 2010 that made the situation clear.

Grace told me that we wouldn't be able to speak much in the future because she had cancer. She said she was busy with medical treatments. Her exact words were “I can't talk to you any old time!”

As it turned out, Grace was lying. She'd apparently had a brush with cancer but it was past and, I gather, she was fine. I didn't know that she was lying, though, and the news affected me more than might have been expected. It wasn't as though she'd brought me much but pain in a lifetime. But I started drinking more beer.

This woman wasn't worth my thoughts or my prayers. Not given that she'd lied about her illness. But I was concerned regardless.

I think my feelings were about closure. Grace had always promised me that someday the way things were would end. “There will be a healing,” she said. Jesus Christ would touch the hearts of the Kiralys. Then everything would be all right.

But Grace lied about Jesus Christ. He wasn't going to go anywhere near the Kiralys and I think she knew it. I imagine a shudder on His face. And to Grace, Christ was little more than a cardboard shield, regardless; something to hold up to block out the sight of the truth.

For a few months, I drank beer heavily. During the events that followed, Grace seized on the fact that I'd done this. She suggested repeatedly that because this had happened, nothing I said afterward mattered.

Grace Kiraly came to visit me unexpectedly in early 2012; a fact, by the way, that confirms James Kiraly has committed perjury. After she went home, she made a point of telling relatives that she'd smelled alcohol on my breath. So this woman had traveled hundreds of miles to visit me but was still focused relentlessly on a perception that made things simpler for her; a way to dismiss inconvenient facts.

At any rate, Grace and I talked by phone throughout 2011 until December. And I started to speak with James. The conversations with James went well. To the best of my recollection, every single one of them was cordial until that month.

When I talked to James, I was careful to say things like “So, you're painting the house?” or “How is your computer working?” It wasn't interesting but James was able to communicate to a limited extent on that level. I'd finally learned how to speak safely to a dangerous and violent child; my father.

Circa early December 2011 I asked my parents if they were ready to work with me on a book related to family issues. Family issues in general; there was no plan to focus heavily on abuse in the Kiraly family.

My mother had known about the book for some time. But I gather she hadn't really understood what I was saying until this point.

My parents ended communication immediately. My father, James Kiraly, went to the police in Pismo Beach, CA circa the next business day and attempted to have me arrested. The proposed charge was “Elder Abuse”. This charge was based on the fact that I'd made 30 consensual phone calls total to my parents over an extended period of time.

At least, the number 30 is what James and Grace told me when they said they were going to the police.

Subsequently, James changed the number 30 to about 70 and said the calls were abusive. He lied; under oath, as I understand it. There were never any 70 abusive calls. Or even one. Every last call prior to the date I brought up the book was consensual; I don't recall a single exception. And every call to James, as opposed to Grace, was not only consensual but friendly and pleasant.

I was appalled that James, who I'd respected at least for honesty, would lie. I'll never forgive him for the lies.

I'll also make sure, regardless of the outcome of the court cases, that the world knows about the lies.

Moving on, on one occasion, after her uncle Edward Kerechanko died, Grace was feeling stressed because she'd been up late waiting for him to pass away. She told me “I don't have any cookies to give you any longer”.

At first, this seemed like an odd thing to say. Possibly a sign that the woman's mind was going.

But, in fact, it made sense. This was meant to be a dismissal. Grace was thinking about telling me to cease communications. But when I asked her about the “cookies” remark later on, she insisted that she'd never said any such thing.

I started noticing more and more around this time that Grace would say things and then forget she'd said them. My parents had always done this. But it seemed to be getting worse for her. When I told her this was happening, sometimes she denied that it was possible. On other occasions, she said things like “You heard wrong!” But, actually, I didn't hear wrong.

My mother, who had had some intellectual potential when she was younger, had lost her ability to reason. Now we'd never discuss the “Fingerprint of God”. I'd always wanted to finish that discussion with her.

And I'd never be able to respond to Grace about the book “Boundaries”. This was a book which implied that family members who are assigned the scapegoat role should not talk about things. Grace believed this quite strongly. She gave me the book because she wanted me to believe it as well.

The lamentable and even heartbreaking loss of cookies I'd never eat again aside, our conversations were often about Grace's feeling that if I was sick and unemployed, it must be my fault. As mentioned previously, she felt that I was sick and unemployed because I didn't pray to Jesus enough.

I remember a favorite conversation that I had with my mother. She asked me, “Is this about money? Do you want money?” I was appalled and told her: “I've made it clear repeatedly that I want to work! I need a job! If anybody in the family can offer references or introduce me to contacts, that would be helpful! I've been mostly unemployed for eight years!”

Immediately, without a pause, Grace Kiraly Kind and Loving shouted these words at me: “Whose fault is that?!”

Some people reading this will see nothing odd about the simple logic of Grace's response. I'm too overcome with the unalloyed decency that Grace displayed to comment myself.

But at least now, after reading what the Kiralys have written, I understand why Grace snapped at me this way. My words meant nothing to her. She didn't even hear them. To Grace, it must be about money. Why? “Just because! It makes sense! Therefore it is so!”

I spoke with Grace Kiraly a few times about things James Kiraly had done. Those talks tended to go poorly. When I mentioned one of the times that James had knocked me to the floor, Grace shrieked “Sass! You were sassing him!"

When I say “shrieked”, I'm being literal. This was a sensitive subject for Grace. She reacted strongly.

I'll explain the “Sass” remark for non-English speaking readers. Grace believed I had been speaking boldly and disrespectfully to James, and that knocking somebody to the floor was an appropriate way to respond to this.

Actually, though, I'd been terrified of James in general. I was never like Kenneth, who spoke to James as he pleased. During the incident in question I'd had no idea why I'd been knocked to the floor.

The reason was simple, though. As mentioned elsewhere, I was autistic or a similar condition. This is a situation which makes it difficult for children and adults to focus eye gaze on others in the “right” way. The condition also affects speech.

James considered the eye-gaze and speech issues to be moral failings. He called these issues “attitude”. He was often angry when they happened. As they happened for me every day, this made life with James a bit uncomfortable.

Looking back at Grace's remarks, it's no longer clear to me why I believed it was possible to communicate with people like this.

I did try to talk to Grace, though. Until James went to the police. He's characterized the fact that the police weren't interested as remarkable generosity on his part. “If I had proceeded,” James explained, “then Bob could not have gotten a job. I, James Kiraly, am Kind and Generous. I will put Bob into the CLETS offender database instead. Surely that will not affect his prospects for employment.”

For legal purposes, I'll note that the preceding wording is humor and not a literal quote. James did go around telling people that he had generously withdrawn charges because of the job issue. This was a lie on his part.

I talked to the same police myself. The fact is that there was no basis for charges of any kind. Charges against me, at any rate. James certainly attempted to make a false report. And, as he did this in conjunction with discussions with Grace, it may have been criminal conspiracy.

I asked the police how I might charge James with a crime. They explained the steps to take. I thanked them and I made preparations to proceed. I also sought legal representation to prepare for civil litigation against my parents. However, I stopped all of this when something unexpected happened. In early 2012, my mother came to visit me without my permission or even an announcement.

So Grace and I resumed discussions. At around the same time, give or take a few weeks I think, I reestablished contact with my brother Thomas Evan Kiraly.

I called Thomas circa his 52nd birthday; January 24, 2012. The call was arranged in advance through an assistant and he agreed to take it. He asked me how I was doing. I said that I was unwell. Thomas became agitated immediately. He snapped “Services! There are services!” By this he meant he believed that medical care is free in America.

After reading the remarks that Thomas Kiraly made when he committed perjury, I realize that he became upset because he thought I was going to ask him for money. But no such request was ever made or implied.

Thomas shouted at me about this and other things he didn't like. I was ill and begged him to stop but he wouldn't. I was next to my bed. I slid to the floor and begged him not to be angry. He wouldn't stop. He ranted and raged.

So the call didn't go well. But Thomas told me to call back in a few weeks. I did as he instructed. During the second or third call, Thomas mentioned something odd. He said that I had a reputation for calling people and “hanging up”.

His statement was bizarre. And he refused to explain it completely. But I pieced together a possible explanation.

I'd tried to call Kenneth Kiraly at what I'd believed to be his home phone. Nothing happened. There was dead silence. So I hung up. I gather that my parents told Kenneth that I might call him and that he was not to speak with me. At any rate, Kenneth apparently picked up and said nothing.

I had no way to know any of this at the time. But Kenneth apparently told his parents that I was “harassing” him by calling and “hanging up”. This assertion is so significant a misrepresentation that it seems to me that it might be legally actionable in and of itself.

I know about this issue because Grace Kiraly phoned me and said “Why do you need to talk to Ken?! Virginia (Ken's wife) is frightened! They have children! By phoning Ken who has never told you not to call him, you are seeking to harm his children! Virginia is frightened!”

This was odd. The fact is that Kenneth had never said not to call him. Not once. For Ken to not speak when I phoned and to misrepresent that, and for Grace to call and tell me that Virginia was “frightened” … I was starting to realize that these people were simply nuts.

It “gets better” after that. Grace subsequently denied she'd ever said that Virginia was frightened. This was too much. Heaven forbid that Virginia should be “frightened” or that Grace should be senile; but it was one or the other.

I decided that if I was going to establish contact with Kenneth, it should be primarily at his office, where presumably no one would be “frightened” and no “children!” would be involved.

I never reached Kenneth. And he never once communicated to me that I should not contact him. I'll say more related to his company, Amazon and Lab 126, later on.

Things changed circa Spring 2012 in an unexpected way. James Kiraly went on the attack. Not in a subtle way. Based on things I was told, he was apparently close to frothing at the mouth.

As part of the research for my book, I phoned the Pismo Beach Chamber of Commerce to check up on a volunteer group that my father was involved in. The book was S.C.O.R.E. or Service Core of Retired Executives. I wanted to write a bit about the group. For example, were its goals altruistic? Was it possible that James was a “good” person under the right circumstances?

The Chamber of Commerce directed me to a man who I had a polite discussion with. I told him that I was writing about altruism. He'd never heard the word before and said something similar to, “I don't know Al Truism.” This man was apparently a friend of my father James. I gather he went to my father and told him I'd called though I don't know for sure.

I also phoned Grace's church with her full permission and spoke with Pastor Ron there. We discussed the nature of a “Christ Follower” and the responsibilities that a Christian has in the temporal world.

As near as I can tell, these two calls unnerved James. Up to this point, he hadn't really understood that the book was proceeding. I gather that when he realized it was in progress, he felt that he had to do something, anything, to stop the project or at least slow it down.

I learned that James was contacting people and saying things similar to “Show a united front against Bob! I need some way to prosecute Bob! Don't be afraid. Give me something.”

These quotes are approximate but reasonably close to the actual wording. In short, James pressured people to help him stop the book. He never did find a way to do this. The lies that he's told under oath won't actually accomplish this. Regardless of what happens in the false and fraudulent legal actions that James has initiated, the book will continue. And the work will be seen.

As an amusing point, James has characterized the simple fact that I know about his lunatic actions, i.e., the demands he has made for people to help “prosecute” me, as paranoia.

Abruptly, circa Spring 2012, I was no longer able to reach Thomas on the phone. There is no way to know what happened. Thomas would need to tell us if James ordered him not to speak with me. And Thomas has demonstrated a willingness to lie; even under oath. So the full truth may never be clear.

I felt enough was enough. I phoned the Pismo Beach police and told them I intended to communicate with my parents. Grace had abrogated my parents' previous request for a cessation of communications so there was no ethical barrier to communication. However, I offered to carbon-copy my communications to the Pismo Beach police regardless and to let them review things. The police declined my offer. They said it would be all right for me to proceed.

I sent my parents a small number of postcards. The postcards were politely worded but they had a mocking tone. After I'd been threatened by these people, I felt the mocking tone was justified. In fact, it was justified, and I find as I write now that I no longer feel the need to be polite.

“Happy Birthday! Birthdays are a time to reflect. Right decisions made? Responsibility taken? Was it a life of honor and truth? BTW Moving forward with church mediation. You cannot stop child abuse book. There is nothing you can do. You no longer have control. You will never dictate again. Never in this life.”

“Hi. Talking to Pismo Beach Police. Nice people. Offered to CC postcards. They said not needed. Heard you object to my book and are making false statements. I may call in Electronic Frontier Foundation. Also Adult Survivors of Child Abuse. Am reopening dialogue with your A.P.S. and Social Services. How is the weather? Book will continue. I expect about 10K visitors per year. I'd like you to help with some chapters if this is possible.”

And here is the most significant communication that I remember from Spring 2012. I made an impolite phone call to my father circa his birthday to go with the birthday card. I said something similar to the following. The wording is approximate and may have been slightly different:

“You're not in control any longer, Jimmy. You can't hurt me. Wife beater! Child abuser!”

I regret leaving that message. But I stand by it. This was the man who had terrorized me for a decade as a child, who had knocked me to the floor, who had chased me out of the house half-naked, who had barely acknowledged my existence except when he was hurting me, and who was now trying to have me arrested.

Of course, James Kiraly had to have the last word. If I understand correctly he moved against me legally a few days later.

Things escalated further when Thomas misrepresented a remark I'd made about his daughter Riane Kiraly. When Riane was seven years old, she stole a dollar. I made her give the dollar back. She whispered something to me. I was astonished at what she said and asked her to repeat it.

I mentioned the incident to Thomas in a voicemail message. What Riane said had nothing to do with Thomas abusing her. But Thomas told his father James, and has apparently stated in court papers, that I threatened to blackmail him about abusing his daughter if he didn't give me money. If I understand correctly, he connected this somehow to his employer, Humana Corporation.

I've reviewed the voicemail transcripts that the Kiralys have thoughtfully provided. The transcripts say nothing like this. I intend to post the transcripts on the Web. And to distribute them widely to clear my name and to demonstrate what Thomas Kiraly is. What the Kiralys are as a family.

If Thomas Kiraly honestly misunderstood the remark, which I doubt, Humana only figured into it because I'd left him a message using the company's voicemail system. I cautioned him at some point that if he didn't want to speak with me, he should tell me as opposed to involving his company. Otherwise we'd need to go over family business with Humana's legal department.

But all of this is public now. This is the last thing any of us wanted. But the Kiralys have chosen to do this. By attempting to imprison the truth they have freed it. There is no turning back. It is all public now. Let the Kiralys try to hide what they've done. It is not possible.

I started to suspect that Thomas might be consciously trying to avoid my calls, even though he hadn't told me anything. I wasn't completely sure. So I left him a message that said we needed at least to discuss our grandfather's books.

The issue with the books was simple. I suspected that I might pass away before Thomas. For various reasons, Thomas was the logical person to take possession of the books by our grandfather that were in my possession.

Thomas has characterized my attempt to give him our grandfather's books as an extortion attempt. I am not even able to begin to understand the reasoning in this case.

If my brother believes that my offer to put Ivan Kmeta's books into my will for him (Thomas) to receive after my death was an extortion attempt, I'd like to hear how it might work. “Here, I am dead, I command you to put flowers on my grave as opposed to urinating on it.” Quite simply, Thomas Kiraly appears to be less than functionally intelligent.

I call this legal strategem, random nonsense to the point of incompetence or even idiocy, Bonetto's Books after Michael Bonetto, the attorney who apparently encouraged Thomas to use it.

The sad part is I made Ivan Kmeta cry over Thomas Kiraly. Ivan was a sensitive soul. In the 1980s, I insisted that Ivan, who was a writer, autograph copies of his books for my brothers. All of my brothers. Ivan did so but was so sentimental that doing this made him cry.

I gave the signed books to Grace for safe-keeping. Naturally, Grace, who is as sturdy and reliable for important things as a strand of wet spaghetti, lost the books immediately. “Books? What books?” she said. Yes, she was a Dependable Rock that could always be trusted. If you gave her something treasured to keep, it would be Safe Forever. It would certainly not be thrown away or given away to people who didn't care.

I still have some copies of Ivan Kmeta's books. Some may be autographed. I'm not sure. I wanted to pass the books on. And my brother Thomas Kiraly characterizes this as extortion.

As a side note, after Grace lost her father's books in the 1980s, I spoke to Thomas about the matter and tried to explain. Thomas slammed down the phone on me. So by 2012 I'd waited over 20 years to settle questions about the books. And now the questions will never be settled.

There was an amusing incident during this period that involved Amazon Corporation. This was Kenneth's company. Kenneth is supposedly the person who developed the Kindle, which you may own. By the way, can you guess the name of the person who taught Kenneth to code in 'C' and got him his first job? Or who let Kenneth live with him rent-free for years?

When I learned that my father James Kiraly was still seeking to have me arrested, I decided to initiate litigation against him. It seemed that I'd need to serve my brothers papers in the case. I didn't want to serve the papers on Kenneth at home because Grace had said that Virginia was “frightened”. So I decided to serve him at Lab 126, the Amazon division that he was associated with.

I wanted to discuss the matter with Kenneth but I'd never been able to reach him. So I asked Lab 126 to identify Corporate Counsel. I intended to use them as go-betweens. I was transferred to an arrogant young man whose name was similar to Abdi.

Abdi immediately threatened to have me arrested. I had done nothing but request the identity of Corporate Counsel, so I was taken aback. I informed Abdi that I would now call the police myself to see about having him (Abdi) arrested for criminal conspiracy. Depending on what was going on, it seemed likely that a case could have been made for this.

Abdi refused to identify himself completely despite taking on the mantle of somebody who could have me arrested. If I remember correctly, he hung up. I spent the next hour or so researching the police departments that had jurisdiction for Lab 126. Jurisdiction turned out to be a complicated matter. I ultimately spoke with police at different levels about specifics for perhaps 30 to 45 minutes.

After I was satisfied that I had the facts straight, I called Lab 126 back and left a message for Abdi's boss, a senior security officer. I explained that I'd talked to the police and verified that Abdi had gone too far. I may have implied that Abdi was less than intelligent but I'm not sure.

I used a lawful and appropriate means to copy the message to Abdi and Kenneth, plus some people I believed might be Corporate Counsel or know who Corporate Counsel was. The amusing part is that James Kiraly has characterized this as hacking Amazon's phone system.

I decided to say goodbye to the wonderful people I'd been blessed with as family members. I left each person a voicemail message. Each message was polite and praised the recipient for all he or she had done for me. Which was nothing, of course. I ended each message with “God Bless You”.

Kenneth received a special message; his went into more detail than the others. It's my understanding that he was annoyed by it. The thought is not greatly displeasing to me. Nor is the prospect of distributing the text of the message over time, God Willing, to a quarter-million people.

In short, the farewell messages were fine mockery. This was my birthday gift to myself. I was pleased and thought all of this was over. But I didn't know that the Kiralys had committed perjury the preceding month and that process servers would lie about serving me.

A few days after my birthday legal papers were slid under a door. I've been told that this was unlawful. They never actually served me.

I discussed this with plaintiff's counsel, Michael Bonetto, the following week. The discussion didn't go well. He seemed to laugh about the fact I wouldn't be able to prove his firm was involved in violations of the law. I'm afraid I said I'd go to the Bar Association. Michael and I were no longer Best Friends Forever after that.

But Michael made a verbal slip-up that might have embarrassed him. It still might. I also sort of mentioned the matter to some of the firm's shareholders. When the time came for my first court hearing, the Judge indicated that the proof of service was missing. Hmm, that's interesting.

I started to say under oath that I hadn't been served. But everybody shut me up pretty quickly.

They silenced me so rapidly that something seemed clear. Illegal service is one of the things that people aren't supposed to talk about.

I've never been good at knowing what not to talk about. From now on, I'm going to embrace that fact. I'm going to talk about everything. Especially my loving family.

I had about four business days from the time of the unlawful service to my first court hearing. I tried very hard to find an attorney during this short period.

People said, “Oh, it's fine. You can just get a public defender.” They didn't understand that that doesn't apply to this kind of case.

Or they said, “Call referral this or referral that or referral that lives down the lane.” But referral services don't have attorneys stored there in the closet waiting to come out and help you. Attorneys are very busy and booked well in advance.

There were no attorneys for me. I grew increasingly desperate. My court date was on Friday. On Wednesday night I gave a petition for the Court to a courier. An attorney had told me to write this. He thought that if it was worded properly it might not be ex parte communication.

The petition asked for a continuance. It offered to settle for a voluntary agreement. It suggested a court-appointed attorney, which I offered to pay for.

The courier delivered the petition on Thursday morning. I waited by the phone to see what would happen. Then I realized I was physically ill. I needed to go to the Emergency Room.

Should I stay or should I go? Decisions, decisions. I went by bus to the hospital. But I didn't quite make it on the first try.

It turned out that I was more ill than I'd realized. I spent a good chunk of the day in the Emergency Room. More will be said about this at a later date. Especially about the bills involved.

I slept on Thursday night. On Friday morning, I took public transit to court. I wasn't in good shape so travel was an ordeal. I was afraid I wouldn't make it on time. But I did. The court granted me a continuance for the action of James Kiraly who had lied and said I was a danger to him as opposed to the other way around.

Thank God, possibly literally, I found an attorney the following week who was able to take both cases. The action of the perjurer Thomas Kiraly was still ahead but I had representation now.

On the plus side, I'm out of my wheelchair most of the time. I've managed to build more respect online. I've learned that the Kiralys apparently lied about everything significant; this may hurt them more than it helps them.

At the same time, there are medical bills related to what the Kiralys did to me in June. I'm losing time that should go to a search for employment. I've been forced to reduce volunteer work. A separate medical issue that's been present for years seems to be progressing. As of early November, I've only eaten on about 25 days out of 90. The situation is tiring.

And the Kiralys have a chance of winning the current battles despite the fact their cases are false and fraudulent.

I've been told that the Kiralys had no basis for CLETS actions, the type of attack that James chose. However, if aggressors have money or are influential, CLETS can be abused. And the aggressors in this case include James Kiraly, former Vice President of Transamerica; Thomas Kiraly, current Vice President of Humana; and Kenneth Kiraly, apparently the architect of the Amazon Kindle.

Lined up against the unemployed, autistic, and physically ill scapegoat of the Kiraly family; somebody who James is still determined to knock to the floor.

James Kiraly has always been full of violence, emotional or physical. But he has already lost. Whatever happens, in the years to come, the facts won't be lost.

The Kiralys, their kind souls shining brightly in the dark, will learn that it isn't easy to bury the truth.

This letter was sent and/or transmitted to Michael Bonetto and/or his associates circa September 5, 2012. One typographical error has been corrected in this copy; specifically, one upper-case “C” has been replaced with a lower-case “c”. Additionally, to simplify reference, section numbers have been modified in this copy to use the form A.5.1, A.5.2, etc.

I trust and assume all is well. That your day has gone pleasantly. I thought I'd run a few things by you related to the Kiraly cases. I hope that this is all right. BTW Additional letters may follow at later dates; either periodically updated copies of the current document or separate documents.

This material will be posted publicly and will be copied in printed form to multiple parties. Actually, the hope is to reach hundreds of groups, entities, firms, or individuals in the short term.

It is my belief that the following points may prove useful as you weigh decisions in the future.

Direct or indirect responses or actions from you or your associates, or from any other group, entity, firm, or individual may be added to or otherwise used in part or in whole by future releases of this document or other material printed or online. For more about this issue, review the rest of this document.

For technical reasons, the letter uses third person but the person in question is:

As you know, discovery is proceeding. As part of this, Robert will be conducting research intended to obtain evidence related to possibly illegal or improper actions of parties involved and to false statements that the parties in question may have made, under oath or not, in writing or not, and in various contexts.

Research will include phone calls and communications of other types. This letter provides related information.

Research will also serve to gather material related to a book that has been planned for over 40 years. You are aware, of course, that the book is at the heart of the cases. However, for your convenience and edification, this letter will summarize some of the facts.

James and Grace spoke with Robert on a voluntary basis until the start of December 2011. Contrary to statements made by James, there never were any “68” (or other large number) inappropriate calls by Robert to James and Grace. Nor was Robert ever asked, even once, not to communicate prior to December.

Instead, despite the fact that James was, in the past, physically violent and emotionally abusive, a fact that witnesses can and will attest to, Robert sought to build a positive relationship with these people, or at least a limited association, and felt that progress was being made.

To the best of Robert's recollection, in 2011, prior to December, there was never a single discussion with James that was inappropriate, negative, or unwelcome. In fact, discussions with James centered on minor but positive matters such as James's attempts to make household repairs, work that he did on his computer, and his involvement with a group named S.C.O.R.E.

Discussions with Grace have been documented previously. For more information, see the web pages that analyze them. I assume that you have the links.

As a related note, things said previously about web pages remain true. If web pages are ever inappropriately taken down, Robert has associates in other countries who will be pleased to host multiple copies.

For every site that is taken down, two will be created. Eventually, a phenomenon known as the Streisand Effect may kick in. It isn't clear that this is likely to happen for a situation of the current type, but it's an interesting possibility.

The Kiraly Case witness referred to previously as Twisted Time may also host websites. He's in the U.S. and the Kiralys know him, so he's not hard to find. However, you wouldn't be able to use a fraudulent CLETS with him. By now I assume you know what I'm referring to. If not, call me and I'll try to set up a meeting. Not kidding, Michael. I'd like to get a picture of you two together.

James discussed S.C.O.R.E. (Service Core for Retired Executives) with Robert freely and, in fact, proudly. The discussions in question led Robert to communicate subsequently and politely with the group.

James had talked to Robert about S.C.O.R.E. and spoken of what he hoped to accomplish there. Robert contacted the group to learn more about its aims in connection with a chapter on altruism. He also wanted to learn if it was possible for his father, a former abuser, to be altruistic; but that side of things was not discussed at all with S.C.O.R.E.

The call had a lighter moment that, given the connection to James, could be viewed as ironic. Robert mentioned altruism to the representative of the group that he (Robert) spoke with. The man didn't know the word “altruism”. He assumed that it was a name and replied, “I never heard of Al Truism!”

Robert does not recall speaking again to S.C.O.R.E. after the single conversation described here. Robert certainly intends to communicate with the group in the future, both to clear his name in connection with false statements made by James and to conduct lawful and appropriate research as described in this document.

James has noted that Robert sometimes phoned James's household more than once a day. James is perfectly aware that calls were brief at times due to issues with Robert's physical health and that in some cases Robert ended calls to take short breaks and resumed conversations subsequently.

Prior to December 2011, all communications and/or incidents of this type were entirely consensual and voluntary on the part of James and Grace. Representations to the contrary under oath are perjury.

Towards the end of 2011, Robert made a request for assistance with the book. James's wife, Grace, knew about the book and based on discussions with her, Robert felt that it might be worth a try to ask James and Grace to cooperate with the project.

The results were not as expected. James went to the Pismo Beach police approx. one business day later and attempted to have Robert arrested to stop the project.

James notified Robert in advance that he intended to do this. When Robert asked James to explain the inappropriate and possibly illegal threat that his former abuser was making, James responded in an incoherent manner and slammed down the phone repeatedly.

This, James's inappropriate and possibly illegal threat, was the context for the only occasion where Robert presently recalls speaking with James during the period when a request not to communicate was in effect.

The Pismo Beach police dismissed James's ramblings and, contrary to false statements and/or indications made by James and/or Thomas, never once spoke to Robert except for the times that Robert contacted the police himself and requested that they review the situation and advise him regarding the procedures needed to have James prosecuted or otherwise handled or dealt with.

On the occasions that Robert contacted the Pismo Beach police, of his own accord, they were most kind. One key interaction in 2012 was related to James's involvement in a possible felony.

As mentioned previously, Grace had abrogated the December 2011 request not to communicate. In short, Robert was free to communicate with his parents. He didn't especially want to, but he and Grace did talk, as Grace insisted on making irritating phone calls; calls of an odd nature that have been discussed previously in Web postings.

Grace's calls will show up in phone records, by the way, Michael. More about this in the next section.

Robert tolerated the phone calls from Grace, but didn't attempt to communicate much in the other direction. Then James took steps which made communication necessary,

Robert learned that James was contacting people and asking them to make false statements so that he (James) could “prosecute Bob” (approx. quote) and telling them “don't be afraid” (approx. quote) to invent stories to serve this purpose.

After this happened, Robert spoke to Pismo Beach police regarding the possible arrest of James. The charges against James would have included criminal conspiracy. Robert also discussed plans to send postcards with the Pismo Beach police. The police expressed no concerns about the postcards, which were legitimate and appropriate communications, but as James has little else to work with, he has sought to use them as “evidence” of some type.

Robert had looked into having James arrested prior to 2012, in connection with the false police report that James attempted to file in December 2011. Robert dropped that effort when Grace insisted on a meeting and abrogated the only request ever made for Robert not to communicate.

As mentioned above, James's and Grace's phone records will confirm that part of the story. You, Michael, are aware of this. It may be the reason you didn't want to confirm something as simple as the identity of the phone company involved. As though we'd overlook it or let the matter drop.

The “68” (or other large number) supposedly abusive calls, which never occurred, have little relevance to the events of 2012 regardless. If you have not spoken with Grace about this simple fact, you are advised to do so.

A competent attorney is prepared for any questions that may arise. You are competent, correct? This being the case, ask Grace about a pleasant and productive meeting that took place at an Olive Garden restaurant in Palo Alto, California.

Have James and Grace neglected to mention the Palo Alto meeting? If you like, Robert is prepared to identify the table that was used. In fact, he invites you, Michael, to lunch at your convenience and offers to sit with you at the same table.

The invitation serves more than one purpose. The current situation has reshaped the narrative of the book. You are part of the story now and your input will be sought in the future.

Natasha, that goes for you, too. The lunch invitation and interviews related to the book. Robert wants to know how you make decisions. Where right and wrong enter into things. What goes on in your head.

During the period that Robert spoke with S.C.O.R.E., James's group, he also contacted the head of Grace's church, Pastor Ron. In this case, Robert sought Grace's blessing first and she provided it. He had her full permission to proceed.

James's subsequent false statements about the matter are puzzling. A related question that Robert wishes to write about is, when people like James lie, if reality melts in their mind and truth flows like butter on hot potatoes, if they cannot understand what they are saying, how should the lies be judged?

By the way, the term “Grace's church” is used as opposed to “James's and Grace's church” because Grace told Robert that she and James had very different types of religious faiths.

Grace and Robert agreed that James's religious views matched his personality: cold, legalistic, and even brutal. Grace was more philosophical. For example, in recent years, she had taken to calling herself a “Christ Follower” as opposed to a “Christian”. This is the tone of Pastor Ron's church and, whatever else James may be, he is certainly not a “Christ Follower”. James would be more of a Pharisee. The type that called for Christ's death and delighted in His agonies on the Cross.

Robert has been contacted by Grace's church and offered counseling. He may well accept the offer. If you, Michael, wish to characterize this ongoing involvement with the church as a violation of the restraining orders that you have obtained through false statements, misrepresentation, perjury, and the abuse of a process that is intended to protect the innocent and not to crush them, you are cordially invited to make the most of it.

This type of communication, calls to a business group and a church, concerned James as he absolutely did not want Robert to speak with associates of any kind.

The reason for James's concern was simple. He feared that Robert would mention spousal and child abuse to people outside the family.

However, until James moved to arrest Robert, Robert rarely discussed his biological family except with relatives and close associates.

Robert was uncomfortable with the Kiralys. He considered them to be self-centered, self-righteous, cold, and impolite. They were unkind even to each other. In public, Robert usually avoided talking about them. He went so far as to Anglicize his surname in some contexts, a fact that is easy to verify. The change was made partly because Robert wanted to become a new person, somebody with little connection to the past that he'd been forced to share with these people.

Even after James attempted to have Robert arrested, Robert spoke about James's past primarily to the Pismo Beach police and to county officials, and then only to protect himself and to seek appropriate actions.

It turned out that it might be possible to arrest James. However, discussions with county officials seemed like a more reasonable approach. Robert imagined that the county would have procedures of some sort for dealing with people like James. Some way to control their behavior.

The fact that James could lie to the police so readily, without hesitation, demonstrated not only that he was untrustworthy but that he'd never had honor to begin with. This led Robert to think further about the past.

Robert had always assumed that, despite everything, James followed some sort of personal code of honor. However, at the end of 2011, Robert realized this had never been true. James had been conscientious about some things in life. But that had been due to OCD and not honor. The bottom line was simply that James was a bully and a liar. Not somebody to be respected or feared.

Robert also realized that the book was needed. The project took on a new purpose. One part would talk about victims. Victims, both children and adults, who are blamed for being victims. Blamed by people like James. And by “Good Germans”. People like Grace, Thomas, and Kenneth. People without conscience or remorse.

The project was not intended to focus on the times that James injured Grace and Robert. The times that Grace lay drunk and unresponsive as her small children wandered about. Or the time that Robert crushed his own hand to protect Kenneth; the same Kenneth that Robert taught and assisted over the years and who has now made false statements to support James and Thomas.

The project was to be a broad synthesis. And something to be approached quietly and discreetly. However, the events of Summer 2012 changed things.

At the start of the summer, immediately after Robert's birthday, he was struck with not one but two fraudulent CLETS actions. He was served illegally; or more accurately, not served at all. As a related note, Michael Bonetto made an odd slip of the tongue in a discussion of the illegal service. Robert is curious about the slip and would like to discuss the matter further at some point.

Robert suffered physically in an odd incident related to the illegal service. The medical bills for that incident remain to be paid.

During the rest of the summer, Robert lost his privacy, received death threats, lost time to legal issues, accumulated legal bills, saw job opportunities evaporate, lost personal associations and opportunities for the same, experienced emotional distress, and was forced to cut back on volunteer work at charitable organizations.

As of early September 2012 Robert has eaten 6 days out of 28 days and believes there is a connection to all of this.

It is safe to say that Robert will not forgive what has been done. Or allow the matter to pass quietly into history. The book is proceeding. Whatever may happen in Long Cause, the Kiralys have lost.

As a related note, Robert has no choice but to be open about what has happened. He is speaking publicly now and will continue to do so.

The idea was originally to use pseudonyms. This is no longer an option. The book will need to name every person involved. What has happened, the people who have done these things, the fact that they can look themselves in the mirror and be pleased at what they see. All part of the explanation of the way things work in life. Part of the story that the Kiralys have chosen to write.

Robert is going to speak truthfully to people about what has happened. To anybody who is interested. To the people out there who are good and kind. They do exist. Robert has met them.

There are court actions against Robert. The actions were taken to stop research related to a book. The book is a positive work, intended to help people, that happens to discuss spousal and child abuse. James is a former abuser who is attempting to silence one of his victims. These are all facts, simple facts at that, and they will be disclosed to the general public. Thousands of people if possible.

In Spring 2012, James Kiraly phoned and/or emailed people urging them to show a “united front against Bob” (approx. quote).

Eventually, James started to come across as deranged. Third parties are invited to review James's statements in the court papers and judge for themselves.

In one place, the papers go so far as to suggest that Robert hacked into James's computer to spy on James and learn all of his secrets. Terrible secrets, one would assume, that James believes Robert knows but for reasons James does not specify has chosen not to use. Some of James's other material is even more unusual.

How does one deal with an abuser like James Kiraly who assaults his victim to silence him? Who exhibits signs of delusions and obsessions but whose false statements are not only taken seriously but used as the basis for legal cases that cause damage in the real world?

Upon considering these points, Robert is inclined to resume discussions with county medical officials in the Pismo Beach area.

James is an elderly man who's had three strokes, who has difficulty separating fact from fantasy, and who seems obsessed with stopping something that he can't stop, legitimate research related to a book where research involves polite and voluntary discussions with third parties. The situation cannot be healthy for James. He needs to be looked after.

Grace can't do it; she is not equipped to deal with this type of situation any longer. Grace has always eaten well and gotten exercise, and so on, so she's in good shape in some respects. However, she is also old.

Grace's bones were shattered a while back by her grandchildren, who shoved her into a fireplace. As a side note, that's an interesting story. She has supposedly had cancer though her stories about this are inconsistent. This woman loves her husband, but she will not thrive until he is under control once and for all.

Counsel has advised me to be cautious when using words like “obsessions” in public discussions of James's behavior. But I'll note that James has literal “obsessions” and Robert is weary of being their focus. To explain further, Robert has learned that when James believes he is alone and unobserved, he does a little dance. It's the sort of thing that Scott, his youngest son, does.

This information was volunteered to Robert. He did not seek it out. He had little interest in James's little dance but it may be evidence of something worth mentioning. Scott Kiraly is obsessive-compulsive and his parents considered him dangerous in the past. A bad combination. Based on the dance disclosure and other information, both traits were most likely inherited from James. If James is obsessive-compulsive, he should have disclosed this to Scott in the past. Perhaps things might have gone differently then.

The question of James's obsession with Robert's book and the possible need to address James's mental state at the county level were two of the issues that Robert sought to discuss with Thomas in 2012.

But we'll come back to Thomas at a later date. To Kenneth as well. Thomas and Kenneth will be discussed at length.

In correspondence with attorneys and advisors. Publicly as well. It may be worth mentioning that Robert achieved close to half a million hits on one website though his usual numbers are much lower. On the other hand, he is number one in Google for one relatively broad subject, above Wikipedia, and in the Google Top Ten for other subjects.

Robert will seek advice and assistance related to appropriate ways to respond to false statements that have been made and to the damage that has been done to his health, to his livelihood and finances, to his personal associations, and to his reputation.

It may take years to find the appropriate way to address the improper and possibly illegal actions that these two, Thomas and Kenneth, have chosen to take. However, Robert is not going to “shut up” now. The truth will not “go away”.

Robert was disconcerted when he learned James was telling people he planned to “prosecute Bob” (approx. quote) to stop the book and that James was also saying “don't be afraid” (approx. quote) to lie.

Robert discussed possible options with the police. Multiple people in the Pismo Beach police department at different levels. Every one of them was polite and helpful. Robert decided to seek criminal prosecution of James, but to communicate with James first using postcards.

Postcards seemed simple and casual, a safe way from an emotional perspective to interact with this harsh person, Robert's former abuser.

The police reviewed Robert's plans, indicated they did not need to see copies of the postcards, and explained the procedure that Robert should follow to have James arrested. Robert had obtained information related to the last point in December but the police offered additional details during the later discussions.

Robert sent several postcards and was satisfied with their tone; blunt but polite. Some of them have been posted proudly on the Web for a while. Robert will be pleased to discuss them in Long Cause.

Work on the book was interrupted when James, Thomas, and Kenneth made false statements intended to disrupt the project, false statements that will be addressed appropriately in the years to come.

You, Michael, are aware that Robert's efforts in this area enjoy First Amendment protections. You also know that attempts to delay a project that is protected under the First Amendment through false statements involving the terms “harassment”, “threatening tone”, “stalking”, etc., will not be appropriate.

False statements do not reflect well on the integrity of your firm and, you may be surprised to hear, piling them up in large numbers has cons as well as pros.

More importantly, from your perspective, you're aware that such actions will be ineffective in the long run. You can delay things. But it's possible that after a certain point you're simply going to embarrass yourself.

Where James and Grace Kiraly are concerned, investigations will include but not be limited to discussions with law enforcement officers, county officials, members of the general public, business associates, church officials, church members, medical professionals, past associates from childhood to date, biological relatives, in-laws, associates of other types, and neighbors.

Where Kenneth Kiraly is concerned, the list will be similar but will add Corporate Counsel for Amazon or the equivalent party or department, the Head of Security for Lab126, and junior or senior members of any law firm that Kenneth or Amazon wishes to employ for the purposes of legal representation.

Where Thomas Kiraly is concerned, the list will be shorter but will certainly include past associates dating back to the period where Thomas underwent a psychological transformation that his mother Grace describes as “putting on a dark mask”. This was the mechanism that Thomas used to separate himself emotionally from the poisonous atmosphere that surrounded him as a child.

Scott Kiraly is part of the book too, of course. He is significant. His life certainly had an impact on the lives of the others.

Robert notes that to understand his parents and brothers, and to write about their lives, which are inextricably intertwined with his own, he will need to understand how the emotional confusion, ambiguous alliances, physical violence, and fundamental neglect that defined the Kiraly household shaped each person.

To what extent did abuse, Nurture, affect the later lives of the children? To what extent was Nature involved? Robert believes that discussions with past and present associates of family members, excluding only “protected” individuals, will serve a useful social purpose as well as purposes that are legally protected by the First Amendment to begin with.

Discussions with people who are contacted will include phone calls, printed mail, electronic mail, real-time meetings in IRC channels, and forum threads. Naturally, discussions will be voluntary.

Your consent, Michael, to Robert's investigations is neither required nor sought. To be polite but honest, Robert is not greatly interested in what you think except for the parts that can be used in the book. He assesses you as potentially dangerous because you have the backing of your firm, at least for the time being. However, he does not believe you are remarkable in any way.

Regardless, you're free to express any concerns about the investigations in progress. Note that responses or actions, if any, may be posted or blogged publicly and distributed widely. Therefore, if possible, send threats or court orders in online form. If you make OCR (Optical Character Recognition) procedures necessary again, this will delay things a bit but not for too long.

OCR worked out pretty well for the court papers, by the way. I recommend Cuneiform 1.1.0 or Tesseract 3.01 if you need to do this yourself. These are FOSS; Free and Open Source Software. If you're interested, I'll explain more about FOSS down the road. It can be useful at times.

As a technical note, attempts to limit the distribution of correspondence using arguments based on intellectual property rights, for example copyrights or trademarks, are likely to fail in court and to produce results that are so opposite to those desired as to qualify as humor. To clarify the latter point, the Streisand Effect is more likely to kick in here than in some of the other possible contexts.

One issue that may require discussion is the fact that Robert is barred from taking steps to learn the addresses of protected parties. This is not relevant for Kenneth but it does apply to others.

Robert considers the address issue to be moot for James and Grace, as Hoge Fenton has provided the Court with proof that Robert already knows their address; or, to be precise, the Pismo Beach address they've had since the 1990s. The proof is, of course, the postcards Robert sent to them, the ones that Robert is proud of, that the Pismo Beach police approved in advance, and that you have confusingly cited as “evidence”.

By the way, when people send Christmas Cards, there is sometimes a return address on the envelope. This fact may be startling, Michael, but it is true. As Robert's parents sent Christmas Cards to him every year through 2010, they are aware he possesses the information that you seek to protect.

If James and Grace have moved since Spring 2012, Robert is not aware of this and has no interest in any new address. He does not wish to communicate with these people again though he is certainly going to write about them. He will be the one who preserves the family history. Who documents the good and the bad going back more than a century. Actually, the good is somewhat limited.

That said, the “address” rule is inappropriate. Robert may seek to have the rule lifted. You may wish to consider whether a decision to contest a request of this type would be entirely wise.

James, after all, is the party in this situation who has a history of violence. Robert wishes to know if he should introduce witnesses to physical abuse committed by James as part of actions related to lifting the “address” rule as it relates to James's household. You are free to offer your views.

Additionally, Thomas is the party who had a fascination with guns in the past and often spoke of shooting Robert in the head. Robert has neither committed nor threatened directly or indirectly any violence against Thomas since circa the preteen years; i.e., the 1960s. Robert may seek to have the “address” rule lifted in this case as well.

Robert asserts the right to create lawful and appropriate biographies of each of his immediate family members. He has the right regardless of recent events and in fact, those events strengthen this point.

In addition to lawful and appropriate discussions with associates and other parties regarding (a) improper or illegal acts committed by these people and (b) research related to a particular book that has been planned for 40 years, Robert will be conducting (c) lawful and appropriate research related to biographies of this type.

There are no websites at these lawful and appropriate Kiraly domains as of yet. However, they will be used to host biographies and related material as things move forward in a positive and productive way; family photos, genealogical charts, career histories, remarks and analysis by associates from childhood, adolescence, and adulthood, connections to current legal actions including statements made under oath, etc.

If these Kiraly domains are seized or disabled in any way Robert will certainly acquire two similar lawful and appropriate Kiraly domains for each one that is seized or disabled. Actually, he sees no reason to wait and will add more lawful and appropriate Kiraly domains regardless.

Robert notes that some domain registrars operate outside regions where improper or illegal means employed by the Kiralys could be used to seize or disable lawful and appropriate Kiraly domains.

Robert adds that he's considered running lawful and appropriate DNS servers overseas himself and that he'd be pleased to demonstrate what this means in the context of lawful and appropriate Kiraly domains.

Attempts to characterize the use of lawful and appropriate Kiraly domains to host lawful and appropriate material as unlawful or inappropriate will be contested.

By the way, copies of James's own writings are in Robert's possession. Robert plans to make appropriate use of the material. Copyright issues will need to be addressed, but Robert feels this is possible. James's words and deeds will live on forever. There are techniques that can be used to ensure this.

We should discuss, at some point, where another party might fit into the Kiraly cases. Prior to the point where Robert obtained legal representation, he made an offer directly to Natasha. She did not respond but perhaps, as things are moving forward, the issue should be revisited.

Obviously, people were aware years ago of violence committed by James. James smashed household objects and sometimes he went farther. Testimony related to this part of James's background might be relevant to some of the allegations made against Robert; the allegations, in particular, that Robert has made “false” allegations.

As a related note, Robert does not recall making a single public allegation of any type that is anything but true.

James and Michael may have assumed that Robert would have difficulty in locating witnesses in time to use them in the current cases. If so, that may have been connected to their possible belief and hope that due to illegal service Robert might end up as a “pro-per” (propria persona). As it turns out, however, one witness is following the Kiraly cases and wishes to testify.

This witness has been referred to previously by the code name “Twisted Time”. His identity is not secret and it will be disclosed to you, Michael, on request. The code name has been used for a simple reason. The reason will be disclosed on request along with his identity.

Twisted Time has offered to host websites related to the Kiraly cases as well as testify in them.

When Twisted Time made the offer to host, Robert was concerned initially that plaintiffs might seek to employ Hoge Fenton to cause damages to him, as Robert himself has been damaged. Or, possibly, to involve Amazon or Humana in such attempts. Robert has received death threats related to Amazon, so the concern is realistic. However, on reflection, Robert feels that Hoge Fenton, Amazon, and Humana are not likely to move against Twisted Time. Robert will explain his reasoning if it proves to be necessary.

Robert has a minor request. He is not barred from communicating with Kenneth Kiraly but does not wish to do so directly at the moment. He may carbon-copy this letter to Kenneth regardless. In the event Robert does not send Kenneth a copy, would you, Michael, be willing to relay a request to this party?

In Summer 2012, Robert was advised by an IRC visitor who may have been Kenneth himself, or an Amazon associate or sympathizer, that Robert should “stop fighting” for the truth, that Amazon was going to “grease your ass”, and that Robert should be dead immediately. Regarding the latter point, this person explained exactly how Robert could and should leave the mortal coil.

Kenneth, or an Amazon associate or sympathizer, provided instructions regarding the procedure in question and urged Robert to die without delay. Robert was concerned as he felt that Kenneth, or an Amazon associate or sympathizer, was prepared to commit violence.

Robert did not consider cooperating with the Amazon-related proposal. Due to a medical issue related to Hoge Fenton's use of illegal service, Robert had had a brush with death not long before. The event affected him. He had no intention of leaving and allowing lies to win the day.

The medical issue came the day before the first session in court, by the way. It is why Robert appeared haggard and was unable to stand at one point. Perhaps you noticed that, Michael. You were young and strong. Robert couldn't stand up. Do you draw confidence from that scene? Tell me. I am curious.

Robert notes that expenses and other damages related to the medical issue will be discussed in appropriate venues over time. He has been looking into possible approaches and feels there may be options.

What Robert requests presently is that, if Kenneth was the visitor in question or if Kenneth arranged the visit or was aware of it, future visitors from Amazon should demonstrate the courage needed to speak plainly regarding their identities and intentions.

Robert is also curious about what is involved in the “ass greasing” that Kenneth's company Amazon is said to be preparing. “Ass greasing” is a colorful term. It smacks of the “threatening tone” concept that Natasha trotted out a while back. But is it serious? A fatal attack? Or does an “ass greasing” provided by Amazon simply cause the victim to slip and slide when he sits down?

As a side note, Twisted Time says hello to Kenneth though he doesn't remember Kenneth well. Kenneth was closer in age to Twisted Time's younger brother, somebody who is as much of a disappointment to Twisted Time from the standpoint of honor and courage as Kenneth is a disappointment to Robert.

By now, Michael, you are aware that Robert is autistic or has a similar condition. Not Aspergers, but something beyond. This was known to his parents though they referred to it as “neurological problems” as opposed to “autism”. The latter word wasn't as widely used at the time.

No help or treatment was offered to Robert as a child other than forced attendance of special “Christian” classes intended to teach young people that they should not “talk back”. “Talking back” was an issue because Robert's condition was, and remains, connected to the parts of the brain that control body language, speech, and social cues in general.

So, instead of treatment, Robert was shouted at or knocked to the floor at home due to the fact that he was not able to talk “right”. His speech difficulties were seen as “attitude”, a word he learned to loathe.

Similar things happened at school. Robert was knocked unconscious by one bully he stood up to, beaten with objects by others, chased into strangers' houses by small mobs, suffocated, taunted on a daily basis, and generally made to feel less than entirely welcome among his peers.

One of Robert's most interesting recollections is the time that another boy put Robert's hand in a door, slammed the door shut, smashed the hand, and laughed.

When Robert discussed the door incident with Grace in recent years, she initially denied that it had happened. Robert reminded her of the details. She sought to minimize the significance of the incident. Robert now understands why she did this. It's one of the subjects he's going to write about. Both the door incident and the remarks by Grace. The priorities that were clear in her head when she spoke.

Robert adds that the suffocation incident occurred outside a place that he and Twisted Time liked: A.L.J.M. Kevin King, Akhil Amar, Nancy Meyer, and a few others may see this passage and recognize the initials. Robert would like to discuss the period in question with them and requests this if it is convenient.

Robert did well on school tests regardless of minor inconveniences such as physical attacks. So he got good grades. James and Grace told relatives that since Robert was getting good grades, everything was all right. Scott was seen as more of a problem, so attention was focused there.

Additionally, Grace actually had three problem children to deal with and not two: James, Scott, and Robert. She decided to focus on the first two. The last one needed to shift for himself. The decision may have been necessary, but it was regrettable for more than one reason.

What's done is done. But, actually, it never is. The consequences of decisions are with us for a lifetime.

In a different world, James might have been brought under control. Thomas and Kenneth might not have turned out the way they did. If there had been pleasant people waiting at home, it might have been easier to keep minor issues such as being knocked unconscious elsewhere or the crushed hand-laughing incident in perspective.

There might have been medical treatment too. Not just for the neurological issue. Robert had an unrelated medical condition, a problem that made it difficult to function at times. The problem also led to mockery. Four decades later one of Robert's peers, Kevin King, told him the issue was one of the things Robert was remembered for.

To address the medical condition, Robert purchased medicine with his allowance. He usually went through a month's supply in days. Decades later, the medicine in question is on the proscribed list. Minors can't obtain it any longer. Robert wonders what happens to sick children today who are raised by people like the Kiralys.

At any rate, an autistic child had interesting situations simultaneously at home and at school. When events in both venues reached their peak about 40 years ago, a time that Grace says was the period when “Robert was having problems with his father”, as though the victim of abuse is the cause, the book at the heart of the Kiraly cases was born.

The 2012 legal cases have inspired something new. Robert plans to set up the Kiraly Case Foundation, a formal entity that may focus on autism, child abuse, bullying, neglect, and the connections involved.

How does abuse, in particular, happen? Why is it possible? The Kiralys are at the heart of the explanation.

“Good” people, people who come across as ordinary in social contexts. Abuse “can't happen” in families like this. Yet it does happen, and reactions are important. Reactions connect to how racism works, religious intolerance, the excesses of history.

Is there an inconvenient fact? Or an inconvenient person? Work backwards from the conclusions desired. Blame the victim. Dehumanize him or her. Then, those in denial believe, the problem is solved.

But what if victims are encouraged to put aside the shame of being a victim? To stand up, to speak out, and to fight back against the Kiralys of the world. And, no offense intended, against the Hoge Fentons as well.

It's a promising concept. The Kiraly Case Foundation will be formed. One point worth noting is that some of the research discussed previously will be conducted under the aegis of the venture.

As a courtesy, Hoge Fenton and relevant charities the firm is associated with may be provided with the paperwork involved.

To the extent possible, things will be done formally. In time, there may be a press release, a website for the venture, a blog, etc. Long term, possibly a YouTube channel that runs interviews with autistic children, child abuse victims, advocates, etc. Robert is reaching out to support groups and hopes to build a presence over time using social media.

As a related note, Michael, think a bit before you attempt to characterize lawful and appropriate communications to third parties who speak on a voluntary basis and related to lawful and appropriate research as “harassment”, “stalking”, or “threatening tone” connected to your clients.

These phrases are not magic. Magic is real in a sense. It works for a while. But it is only until the entertainer's tricks are revealed. Then the awe is gone and the magic show comes to an end. The show isn't actually over for these cases. But false and fraudulent delays won't change the lawful and appropriate ending.

It might be sensible to step back and consider the larger picture briefly. The people on both sides, the elements of the cases, and other factors I'd assume that young attorneys are taught to evaluate.

Michael, you have a former wife-beater and child abuser who seems to have lied in writing about every significant aspect of the happy situation that you've dived into so enthusiastically and with such abandon.

By the way, you should understand that the following points will never go away. Regardless of who wins Long Cause, these points are going to be discussed for years. In Internet and real-life venues around the world:

* The fact that Grace abrogated the one and only request not to communicate that Robert recalls.

* The harassing calls from Grace to Robert in 2012 that James's phone records will confirm.

* The fact that Robert didn't discuss James's past much in public until he was forced to do so.

* The fact that Pismo Beach police approved Robert's communications, including but not limited to the postcards.

* The fact that Pastor Ron and Robert had a positive discussion that focused on things like the nature of a “Christ Follower”.

* The fact that no child-abuse allegations were ever made against Thomas or Kenneth.

* The fact that allegations of physical violence and emotional abuse made against James were valid.

* The fact that James went to the police immediately after he and Grace were asked politely to help with the book.

* The fact that the police never spoke with Robert until Robert contacted them regarding having James dealt with.

* The fact that Robert has never in decades caused, threatened, or implied physical harm to your clients.

* The fact that Grace was the one who pestered Robert for decades by phone. Not the other way around.

* Twisted Time. How should he be integrated into these cases? Make up your mind, Michael. By the way, Grace knows who he is.

* The fact that Robert largely honored the one and only request that any of your clients ever made not to communicate, the primary exception being a single day, the day when James made an incoherent and possibly illegal threat to lie to the police and thereby commit a crime himself.

What a pleasure it must be for you to look down and contemplate what you've stepped in, Michael. It won't wash off easily. As the kids today say, “Sweet!”

Whether Robert wins or loses Long Cause, he hopes to get one or more of these people on a witness stand in other actions. Actions that won't be as easy to manipulate as CLETS. And Robert will do exactly as he promised to do in voicemail. The part about what will happen on the stand.

BTW To clarify the “pestering” issue mentioned above: Grace phoned Robert for decades to discuss God, her husband James, marital relations, the reason she actually married James, family secrets of different types (secrets Robert no longer feels bound to keep), her disappointment in Thomas and Kenneth, Thomas's “dark mask” (she was big on that subject), how she felt about Thomas's and Kenneth's wives (hint: she apparently bit her tongue a lot), the child-rearing techniques employed to raise her grandchildren, all kinds of criticism of Robert, concerns about Scott's health, concerns about Scott's lover, Scott this, Scott that, Scott up and down the road.

Thomas has presented “testimony” that is incoherent to the point that it drools on the floor. Even laypeople who see it – and they will, Michael – are likely to be bemused after the interrogatories are added. I believe it may be useless in Long Cause. And, for you in years to come, it may be like the social sites that adults wish they hadn't posted to when they were teenagers without a thought for the future.

Part of Thomas's “testimony” consists of a transcription of things that Thomas was directed to say by James, said direction coordinated by you. Thomas had no involvement with or connection to the events in question and, in fact, they never happened.

Michael, what were you thinking? It was about the illusion of frightening volume, wasn't it? No doubt the idea seemed good at the time.

Most of the rest of Thomas's “testimony” may be classified as misrepresentation or perjury. For example, Thomas has used words like “stalking” while neglecting to mention that he never once asked Robert not to communicate with him and, in fact, invited Robert to call back. But surely this minor point was an innocent oversight on your part.

With your encouragement, Thomas has also sought to position Robert's attempts to give Thomas books written by their grandfather as an extortion attempt. Books that Robert made the author cry over, by the way. The author, Ivan Kmeta, wept when Robert pressed him to autograph books for Thomas's sake. Robert would call back Ivan's tears if he could but it is impossible. The man is dead and Thomas has shat upon his works.

An abuser and a fool. Michael, you've got a winning pair there, don't you? Do you have a grin as you think about how to pull their fundaments out of the legal fire that you've started? A legal fire you're aware that false statements and Long Cause will not stop. Not now nor years from now.

From a legal perspective, Kenneth may be WORD REDACTED as well. I'm still evaluating his involvement but by taking the actions he did, he handed me what I need to take lawful and appropriate steps.

Not one of the serious allegations that you and your clients have made against Robert is true.

Robert has proactively communicated with county officials, police, and others in a responsible way. He has sought to build consensus where possible.

Robert is moderately good at documentation and certain types of analysis. Nothing significant but it's true that he does have small skills in these areas. The issue is related to patterns. Patterns in code, information, business, and people. Threads that go from the past to the future. If he remembers to look, and studies a situation for a period of time, sometimes he can see things.

Robert is autistic, unemployed, and physically ill at times, but he volunteers to help individuals and charitable organizations, both in real life and online.

Five minutes before this paragraph was written, one of Robert's associates sent him the following message. The message was unexpected and provided a nice start to the day. The sender is one of several people who Robert has tried to help and has been teaching to code. And to think.

The message said: “Of course, eventually I will also be a spiritual Coder with a lot of heart, patience, and encouragement for others.”

Robert does not always encourage people. On occasion, he has been known to offer discouragement. As a related note, there is a humorous Nerdcore song out about Robert. You are welcome to a copy.

Robert has been told by the first female physicist who graduated from Stanford University that he's helping to “save lives in Afghanistan” and to locate King Solomon's tomb. Literally; these are two of her professions. Her assertions about Robert are premature but it's nice to hear remarks of this type.

Robert was involved with a group that aids brain-injury victims. The facility is located in your area. Perhaps your firm helps to support it. There's a nice painting in the lobby of a woman lifting herself out of her wheelchair and climbing to success. She pulls herself up using pure determination as an aid.

Robert has been forced to suspend his work with the brain-injury group due to the Kiraly cases. I assume that your perspective is, “no big deal”. But he's a bit sad about letting them down.

Michael, are you certain you're pleased with the cards? If so, play the hand. Let us proceed through discovery to Long Cause. However, you should advise your clients that whether or not you win Long Cause, legitimate research and appropriate actions of other types will continue indefinitely.

In fact, your actions raise new questions that will be explored. Thoroughly. In a number of venues. Surely your clients will praise the wise and intelligent decisions you've made regardless.

By the way, there are quite a few assertions on your side. You do understand that all of the assertions are subject to interrogatories, don't you?

These are portions of IRC conversations related to the Kiraly cases. The text is lightly edited but reasonably close to the original wording. This material will evolve over time as more discussions take place.

In 2012, a problem in IRC cost me a visit from Twisted Time. He stopped by and I didn't see him. I talked with some of the IRC people involved afterward. One of them asked me to explain myself. To justify my decisions. This is what I said in response.

I will write
About why I do what I do
When I write it
I will know the answer

I will do the right thing
If I do the right thing
I will be real at last
I will be real at last

There is a song
From 1970
The boy who sang it
Is dead of old age

I am the boy in the song
Time to put that aside
I'm going to be real at last
Good day, Gentlemen

This is an interesting conversation that explains a bit about Twisted Time. He's seen this piece and seems to feel that I've got the story right. The candle anecdote is true.

The name Ishmael is a pseudonym for somebody in IRC who I thought might be depressed. He is doing fine presently. Twisted Time and I both laughed at the part where Ishmael backtracked regarding how people felt about me.

<Ishmael> you havent told me what you are ive been suspecting your a deity of some sort
<OldCoder> I am an old coder who is not well
<OldCoder> I do not speak as you do without effort
<OldCoder> I speak well if I am prepared

<OldCoder> Twisted Time. Have I explained anything about him to you?
<Ishmael> you have not spoken of the twisted time

<OldCoder> Twisted Time is my link to the present
<OldCoder> As I am trapped in this odd future
<OldCoder> Of 40 years from now
<OldCoder> He himself lives in the moments of a candle
<OldCoder> He looked at a candle
<OldCoder> And realized that as he was not breathing
<OldCoder> Due to what had happened
<OldCoder> When the candle went out
<OldCoder> So would he

<OldCoder> Ever since that day
<OldCoder> He has wondered
<OldCoder> If I understand what he has said
<OldCoder> If he is still living
<OldCoder> In those moments
<OldCoder> Of the candle

<OldCoder> We used to play N-dimensional chess
<OldCoder> In our heads
<Ishmael> I'm trying to grasp the immensity of what you just said
<OldCoder> He tells me that we played on a toroidal surface once or twice

<Ishmael> your not dieing... are you?
<OldCoder> No. But I am not well physically.
<OldCoder> I will speak with you again if you wish

<Ishmael> i just realized i cant remember the beginning of this chat
<OldCoder> It is a moment in the flame
<OldCoder> Feel no blame
<OldCoder> Nor sorrow
<OldCoder> It will return
<OldCoder> On the morrow

<Ishmael> People like you coder
<OldCoder> Is that a question, a theory, what?
* OldCoder is interested

<Ishmael> They have trust in you and feel you to be a stable voice of reason in the chaos
<Ishmael> a theory
<OldCoder> I am pleased to hear this
<Ishmael> more so a hypothesis
<OldCoder> Is there any supporting evidence?
<Ishmael> Some
<Ishmael> Not enough for it to be proven a theory in my opinion
<OldCoder> O.K.

<OldCoder> Ishmael I think I will move on
<OldCoder> And we both can rest a bit
<Ishmael> you gotta keep moving if not we die
<OldCoder> Like sharks
<OldCoder> Right?
<Ishmael> yes
<OldCoder> I am going to move on

<Ishmael> im an expert at moving mainly cause i cant die no matter how much i want to
<OldCoder> Then you shall be a Shark
<OldCoder> Devouring Time

During the period leading up to James Kiraly's attacks in 2012, I was ill enough at one point that I couldn't get water for a weekend. I spoke with my in-law Sandy Kerechanko; daughter-in-law of Ed Kerechanko who's mentioned elsewhere. We talked about her greeting card job. I mentioned that I couldn't get water. She talked about the new line of cards.

Tariq, a pseudonym, befriended me that weekend in IRC. He kept me company until I recovered. After the Kiralys came after me, Tariq was there to review things and to act as a reliable sounding board. The following discussion is from the day that we said good-bye.

As documented elsewhere, I spoke with Pastor Ron, Grace Kiraly's pastor, with her consent. Subjects included the nature of a Christ Follower, which Grace represented that she had become, the responsibilities of a Christian, and topics of a similar nature.

James Kiraly has misrepresented, committed perjury, and/or engaged in felonious criminal conspiracy in connection with the matter. However, lawful and appropriate discussions with Christians continue regardless and will be expanded in the years to come.

The Kiraly cases have shifted the nature of the research. The initial discussion with Pastor Ron was of a general nature. Discussions with religious figures, religious writers, and Christians of different types will now need to go into details of the cases. Perhaps this is the way it was meant to be. More than one Christian seems to feel that this may be the case.

Here are one writer's thoughts on the Kiraly cases including his advice to me. The name Connery is a pseudonym. I don't understand a few of the points made here; for example, the distinction that Connery draws between Man and Human Beings isn't entirely clear. But I expect to build a more complete picture as I speak with more people.

The primary remembrance is that the LORD will not tempt us beyond anything we should be able to handle... this tempting is considerable to our own individual uniqueness.

Ecclesiastes is the definitive book in the Bible. All is vanity here... the only thing not in vain is the breath of the LORD in us and some have chosen to rebuke that breath of life... so be it. Man is of freewill.

1st Corinthians 13... without love we are nothing and as there is no good in me and there shall never be any good in me that which is perceived as good from me is actually the Grace of GOD's good working through me. That good is given to whom GOD chooses, not whom I choose.

The legality is meaningless.. it has origins from Human Beings (not Man). GOD created Man (natural). Man created Human Beings (Man-made).

Just smile and know that they know not what they do. Their god is money and they have become used to kneeling before their god, money, and will do anything in their power to keep you from being at peace.

Your GOD sees the mistake they have made that prevents them from approaching GOD again. Freewill agency... they have become ashamed and would be utterly destroyed to stand in HIS presence again and they know it. Don't hold it against them... they do that perfectly fine for themselves.

As I see it the issue is that they are in want to stop your book of your own experience, in your words... well, to me – it is: How does it feel to want. That is something they are pursuing against you.

You are writing a book, they don't want the book published – you are well within your right to write and publish the book, they have no say in the matter. They can try anything... that is the beauty of a lawless society; those in adherence to legalities.

Try as they might in the pettiness of their belief that the “Flesh” is all, they heap coals upon their own heads.

Being alive in Christ is to have given up all material and live by (in) His example and Christ was not the goody-two shoes everybody believes. The true image of Christ as He walked in the flesh among us was not as the telling you have experienced.

Christ stood up for His Bride (the Church) against the hordes of ungodliness and perversions of the truth and “taught” the priests when He was 13. Taught is probably the wrong word; more like “instructed” should be there.

OldCoder... don't worry about things outside of your control. We are all given this time here on Earth to grow into the true image of GOD... some people just don't get the picture because they don't take the time to “smell the roses” as it were.

As stated before it is a legal (lawless) society and that legal litigation is what the unseen “evil” forces of the World use to distract the unaware. Thus saith the LORD: my people perish for the lack of knowledge.

A lil' bit of wisdom comes from the adage “it is always darkest before the dawn”. Dawn signifies to Human Beings the beginning of a new day. The reality of it is: there was nothing and then GOD said “let there be light” and that was the first day. The dark preceded the light. Not the light preceded the dark.

180 degrees out of phase is how Human Beings walk about the World. To the natural creation it is understood that the dark (which hides all things) was before the light, that which provides clear vision to see the things hidden in the dark.

GOD entered HIS rest on the seventh day. GOD rests in the light – not the dark. For HE has never come out of HIS rest.

You know, one of the things funny about “truth” is a perception that “truth” is only applicable to those that believe it. That is legalism at its finest, and being lawful, that has no bearing on the truth.

The old saying... be true to yourself... is the knowledge and understanding of “who are you?” Are you worldly or are you natural? One's words and actions need to be co-incidental.

You don't have to try... it is in you just let it happen - it is a natural thing and we are taught to be civil (compromising) against that which is undoubtedly immutable.

There was a reason Christ has always been with me (and I never doubted His presence about me since my earliest days) it is that GOD imparts the knowledge and understanding in HIS time for HIS Great Mystery to those HE has set aside.

And as with Man we are to grow into this knowledge and understanding by listening and obeying HIM. Just as the Human Beings listen and obey their masters.

Freewill advocacy goes so far as to the ends of the Earth that it is only interfered with upon the advent of placing your freewill against another's freewill and providing injury (in any measure to any extent) to the oppressed.

Your father, being “Holy” should (ought) to know this... but then Human Beings are a complacent lot.

I pray for you and your family that it be settled as Man and not into the realm of illusion of Human Beings.

The basic need of “truth” is the exposure of it and once exposed it is edification of truth so that the same error is not provided for again (backsliding).

No matter what happens, you can be at peace knowing you (won or lost in the legal thing) ran a clean race and didn't trip anybody else up.

Time to shake it loose – don't over-react, though – just enough to subdue it and once subdued chain it, no longer allowing it the freedom without the chain.

If one goes public with something then the knowledge of having to answer publicly is accepted with its public notice.

If you are not willing to defend your “truth” then stay out of the public eye. Avoid the public – Human Beings.

The trouble with being spiritually awake (or being spiritually awakened from slumber) is that the overwhelming of the “eyes open” sees so much that was never dreamed about in slumber.

As one awakens and wipes the sleep from the eyes we feel alive and want to greet the new day with exhilaration.

But just as the slumbering awaken (some never do) we are just a baby and cannot digest the steaks and hamburgers of life. We need the nourishment of mothers' milk and then we get a tooth and then two, three. Now comes the first taste of soggy toast dipped in vitamin D milk and so on.

Slumbering is the separation from GOD and awakening is the aspect of being filled with the desire to expound (by whatever means) this new-found energy. We are not yet in any control of what is happening other than our freewill to walk away from it. It takes time to really take that first step as a babe.

We teeter, we fall... but, you know what, our Father is right there to pick us up again and give us reassurance. So we know we can do it.

Being hurt in the physical realm is healable. I got cut and the cut heals. The same is true of the spirit.

It may be sufficient to be secure in the knowledge and understanding that although we are cut, it will heal. Sometimes a scar is left depending on the nature of the wound. The scar is a remembrance of “what not to do” and to assist others with the knowledge of “don't do that or this will happen”. For the Doubting Thomas the scar is proof of the knowledge – that should impart understanding; the depth of understanding is only dependent on the individual you are giving the knowledge to.

We are all different and unique – but we are all the same – GOD's creatures.

If a wrong has been committed against me it is up to me to point out the wrong (error) and provide avenue to correct the wrong. That's it. I cannot make the error go away. The one creating the wrong has to remedy it so that it does no longer wrong me.

I desire that Mankind suffer not – but I can not interfere with freewill advocacy of another and will not even if it is directed at me ... that does not mean I have to sit there and take it – I just remembered that back in the 80's there was the “Real Men.” craze... so, using that... Real Men turn around and walk the other way.

There is a lot of anger in the World today, and anger is caused by the frustration and confusion created by the lack of effective communication.

It seem plausible that to remove the “anger” within life one should effectively communicate (by looking at ones' self – truly looking at ones' self) and rising above the frustration and confusion (which may take a lifetime – or not) and wholeheartedly talking.

It'll happen here and there, but never on the “Global” scale. The world is diverse and so are the followers of the world... the world is the master to them – the followers of the world been conditioned to act accordingly in it. It is lawless – ergo, they are lawless.

Just as Moses stated when coming down from the mountain, in basic words: “they that will not live by the law will perish in it”.

What perplexes me is that your father is a “Holy” man and yet apparently provides the proverbial case of the Scribes and Pharisees in that they outwardly perform this and then in secret perform abominations to the sight of the LORD.

But... hey... people do strange things not easily recognizable to me in my natural character. I could become as they are in a heartbeat, but there is nothing in it for me.

As the publication goes... I'd most likely provide it in a testimonial form with provisions to the signs of abuse and how to deter the advent of abuse.

Names changed (or with-held) to protect the innocent as well as the guilty. I don't know who is or is not and cannot provide for bias of any who do take it upon themselves to position themselves in a situation of judgment.

This way if any believe themselves to be that which is testamented they themselves heap the coals upon their head for the guilt they have secreted and continue to protect in secret.

Once they now lash out at you... your response is of their admission of guilt. They now judge themselves whether or not they realize what they have just done; actions and words being co-incidental.

You are guilty of nothing and they themselves have convicted themselves by their admission of conscious guilt.

The only thing you can be held accountable for is the “light of truth” and that is a running of the good race.

These are practical issues only if they are practiced by you. Practical does not exclude your common practical issues arising from others' actions or inactions.

One needs to understand where one is. You are either lawfully abiding or you are legally abiding – you cannot serve both GOD and Mammon.

There are 6 billion plus here now and very few have seen the light and even fewer have desired the light, and even fewer have not turned away from the light and fewer still remain on the path having been given to the knowledge and understanding that “all is vanity” save the breath of life from the LORD.

We have to be ever sober-minded and never be rash about things and attempt the “easy” way out... being formed in the image of GOD is nothing light.

The body is a fleeting moment and GOD was manifest in the flesh (HIS Son). Don't let the fleeting moment destroy who you are, OldCoder.

It is not easy, but then nothing in life is. Money can't buy happiness. Look at what it has done to your family. Money is being used to create discontent and discourse.

All the frowns in the World directed at you pales to one smile from your Father, Who art in heaven... He loves you so much he directed your footsteps to meet me.

Nothing given to chance, it is all predestined in HIS Great Mystery. We are all about fumbling and stumbling to find out about.

The body returns to the dust. But the breath of life of GOD (the spirit) returns to HIM Glory to GOD.